I’m feeling pretty pissed off with my DH who is on training exercise with work. He’s been away for the last couple of nights, leaving me with our 3 DC.
Not a big deal in itself that he is away, it’s work and I’m used to it although I will admit sometimes when I’m up to my eye in horse shite, (oldest daughter has horses) dealing with the latest tween drama or 6 year old trying to escape out the bedroom window and he is being forced into a trip away complete with social cheese and wine evenings and fresh hotel bed I do what to stab him in the eye but that is not my issue this time I do not think.
First night usual phone calls, he had a big meeting the following day so grabbed a burger and couple of beers and then called as me as he was going to bed.
Just to add I’m not needy but I do appreciate a phone call to find out how we are all doing, we have a few quite stressful issues ongoing with middle daughter which rose right before he left and he apologised about it being such rubbish timing but obviously being a very busy man there was nothing he could do.
He had told me he would finish around 5ish last night (expected home today after a final meeting this morning) and he would give me a call when finished. I got a response to a back to a message I sent him around 5.30 asking how his day was with “Hi” and “In the pub” and that is last I have heard from him!! Called him a few times since then and nothing.
I should probably add at this point that I don’t think he’s up to no good, cheating wise or anything like that, he’s a great husband and dad and we are very happy but he does find it tricky gage the work/home balance and his reply will be something like, “Oh sorry I just didn’t think” or “Time just got away from me” translating in basically I had a busy day, I was very sidetracked being a social butterfly and drinking all the beer and I came back the room and passed out without really giving you a guys a fucking 2nd thought!
AIBU to think this really is just not good enough and he should get it from me both barrels. I have been trying to rationalise it, think aw poor him, he’s had a really busy time of it and just needed to blow off steam but then I think if he had done this at home and disappeared without trace or contact I would be worried sick and on the verge of calling the police.
I have a little time before he arrives back here and I’d really like a bit advice on how I should handle this or likewise if it’s me that’s being AIBU and making a big deal out of nothing.
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Dickdickdick2 · 08/03/2019 09:06
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