I recently left my emotionally abusive partner. I don't think he realises that emotional abuse was what he was inflicting on me. He thinks his behaviour is normal and that I am the one who has the problem, but in fact after a bit of research, EA is what it was.
He wants access to our child, which is fine, but he wants it on his terms. I'm scared to say no to him. Everyone in my life tells me I need to put my foot down and I am far too accommodating. Travelling to him, being kind when he's being rude to me, ignoring his aggression etc.
I need help breaking out of this cycle and being assertive, but I just don't know how. It seems mad. I'm not stupid, I have 2 postgraduate degrees, I work in law enforcement, I'm always described as a tough cookie, but when it comes to my ex I am an absolute mess. I'm so scared of him, even though he's never, ever hurt me.
I keep thinking about calling women's aid but I'm nervous to. I'm worried they will tell me I'm being silly or that I need to respond to his demands etc. I'm sure they won't but I'm so run down and beaten up over it.
Can anyone help me?
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JammaJamma · 07/03/2019 11:00
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