I arranged a night out with some friends for next weekend. Plans were made about 5 weeks ago to ‘go for drinks’ in the local town. 7 friends said yes. Great. It’s also the weekend after my birthday so although I wasn’t arranging as something for my birthday (I don’t normally bother because I always feel let down), someone suggested it could be birthday drinks on the group chat. Ok I said, any excuse.
Anyway, fast forward to about 2 weeks ago and one of these friends mentioned to me that her and another of these friends were planning a meal at a new place in town on that night and did I want to join them. I said that was the night I’d planned the drinks. Neither had remembered which did make me feel a bit disappointed as we are talking about really close friends here. I suggested that we could do that instead on that date if everyone was up for it.
Fast forward again to last night and I put out a message to the group chat asking if everyone was ok with the change of plan and to let me know so I could book a table or not. Every single other person responded that they couldn’t make that night as they had other plans.
AIBU that that had made me feel like utter shit?
It’s not about celebrating my birthday, or that they can’t attend this particular night, but it’s about the fact that every single one of my closest friends either didn’t think it was important enough to remember in the first place, or didn’t think twice about blowing me out (and even bother to let me know till I asked).
After all of the blow outs I replied just saying ‘good to know that you all had the date in your diaries then!’ And only 1 friend replied saying she was so sorry. No one else has bothered.
Im feeling a bit low at the moment so just wanted a sense check. I am really quite upset that I am clearly not important enough to any one of them to have a bit more regard for plans they had already made with me. They had a better offer and took it. Every last one of them. AIBU to have taken this so badly?
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BasinHaircut · 07/03/2019 10:43
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