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To think I should give up on holidays

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Moanymoaner123 Thu 07-Mar-19 09:39:19

So for the last 10 years or so, whenever I go on holiday I get ill on the day of arrival. Doesn't matter where I have gone Europe, Africa, Caribbean, America it always happens though the type of illness varies from vomiting to heamarroids to flu. My DP treated me to 3 nights in Paris on my own this week, as I've been feeling very down and sleep deprived ( I have severe depression and anxiety and have done for years) and on the day I arrived I started getting hot and cold, shaking and feeling nauseous, tonsils so swollen I could barely drink water. Couldn't sleep at all the first night, and woke up to diarrhoea all day. I go home on Friday so this is my last day, and I have don't nothing but bathe and watch shit on my iPad and pop to the supermarche for food which I can barely stomach. I feel a little better today but feel so down I can't be bothered to get up and out of the apartment. I know this is a total first world problem but it's really deflating when you are so desperate to do something nice for yourself and your body lets you down. I am never ill before I set off, it always happens once I arrive. Our last few holidays I have spent mostly in the loo or in bed and I can't even enjoy anything, and then I feel horrendously guilty that I've spent all this money on holidays I haven't enjoyed. Does this happen to anyone else? I've told DP I'm not going to bother with holidays anymore as I always come back feeling worse not relaxed. AIBU to just never travel again as clearly it doesn't suit me?

pippistrelle Thu 07-Mar-19 11:24:39

That sounds rubbish for you, OP. I have to say though that travel can be a pretty anxious-making thing, even though it's for a pleasant purpose, so I would wonder if there's a link between increased anxiety and physical symptoms.

sillysmiles Thu 07-Mar-19 11:31:57

Hmmm - what would happen if you took a few days off and just went to a nice hotel in the countryside to relax for a few days.

I wonder if you are running yourself into the ground before holidays and then once you relax you get sick. I tend to do this at christmas time!

Singlenotsingle Thu 07-Mar-19 11:32:26

Sometimes I wonder why we bother with holidays. You buy or rent a nice home, it's warm and comfortable, it's got all your favourite stuff that you've chosen - and then you go and leave it all and pay through the nose for something that's not so nice.

The other thing is, when you take time off work, I think your body just relaxes and let's all the ailments strike, as though they'd all been waiting.
I don't have any answers OP, but I sympathize flowers

bobstersmum Thu 07-Mar-19 11:36:46

This used to happen to my dh every time. He used to say as soon as I let myself relax I'll be ill, and he was. I've heard people say once they retire they're permanently ill as well. Are you very busy in day to day life?

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