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To out him for what he is? **Contains distressing content - Thread title edited by MNHQ**

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OpiesOldLady Mon 04-Mar-19 22:56:27

Ugh. I know that I'm not being unreasonable to want to - but I'm not sure if I would be if I did.

I want to out my children's rapist for the paedophile he is.

A few years ago I had a thread on MN about him - he'd been found guilty of two counts of rape and four sexual assaults against two of my children. His 'punishment' was two years good behaviour order, not allowed to be alone with a child under 14 between 7pm-7am and five years on the SOR. He comes off that in October. He's 18 atm soon to be 19, he was 14 when he abused my children.

I feel that he has barely been punished whereas my children and I have been given a life sentence. We had to move house because he made death threats against my son and my children now live in foster care because I had a complete nervous breakdown. I seen my children regularly and have good contact with them... but I feel like I've lost everything already so I've nothing left to lose.

I know where he goes to college and I've thought many times about telling everyone. Why should he get to live the rest of his life free of this, whilst we suffer? Would you want to know if there was a chance your son or daughter was hanging around with a convicted child rapist?

gauntletthrown Mon 04-Mar-19 22:59:18

I'm sorry you're going through this.
It needs a trigger warning though.

OpiesOldLady Mon 04-Mar-19 23:01:47

Sorry, I'd not realised. I've reported it to MNHQ to ask for a TW.

Sleepthiefismyfavourite Mon 04-Mar-19 23:03:42

How awful, I'm so sorry sad

Divgirl2 Mon 04-Mar-19 23:06:30

I can completely appreciate why you would want to expose him, and it sounds like this has been unbelievably traumatic for you and your children. Exposing him won't keep anyone any safer, it won't get your kids back. It might, best case scenario, make you feel better short term, but it could also get you in to a lot of trouble.

Have you had access to any counselling since this? I'm so sorry this has happened to your family flowers

BrokenWing Mon 04-Mar-19 23:07:14

How do you children feel about you outing him and therefore publicising what happened to them? I know my niece wouldnt want that.

You need to get him out your head and concentrate on what and who really matters now, that includes yourself. Easier said than done I know.

OpiesOldLady Mon 04-Mar-19 23:16:06

I'm lucky that I have a fantastic therapist that I see weekly. Usually I try not to think of him but he plays on my mind occasionally - like today. I guess I just want to hurt him like we're hurting. Which I suppose is a step up from wanting to actually kill him.

Dreamzcancometrue Tue 05-Mar-19 00:02:23

Sorry to hear you've been through this OP.

OpiesOldLady Tue 05-Mar-19 08:25:25

I'm okish. I have to be.

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