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To not like the place I live?

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Jezzifishie Sun 03-Mar-19 19:59:23

I have moved around a lot, have been in my current West Midlands city for coming up on 3 years. I have friends here, a good job, daughter is settled in nursery and happy, she will (hopefully) get into a good school for this September. I'm only thinking about this because I went to a rugby match and realised that I was cheering for the team based in my husband's home city (where he hasn't lived for 15 years) rather than the team based where I live! How do you grow to like a place?

HennyPennyHorror Mon 04-Mar-19 06:56:28

I've moved a lot too. I love history...so the first thing I do when in a new place, is to learn all about the history of the place.

It makes me feel more rooted and as though I know the place better. I can walk down a street and have a "memory" even though it's not my own.

For example...my current town...I know exactly where the oldest building is, where the town's first school was...where someone got killed in 1850 in a gun fight...

And I do this in every place.

I'm hoping this is my "last" home though. I don't want to move any more.

Jezzifishie Mon 04-Mar-19 07:21:59

It can be tricky to feel settled, can't it! That's a good tip about learning the history. The problem about this city (and this will probably make it very obvious which one it is!) is that a lot of it was destroyed at one point in time, and rebuilt very quickly. It now just feels dated and a bit unloved. I went to a museum when we first moved here, the display was about how the city has had a lot of difficult times and was often struggling! Maybe everyone else here feels this way too blush

Barbarafromblackpool Mon 04-Mar-19 07:25:34

If it's Cov, I can't blame you for not loving it.

HennyPennyHorror Mon 04-Mar-19 07:33:45

Which city is it Jezz?

LittleCandle Mon 04-Mar-19 07:34:09

I lived for over 30 years in a place I didn't like, and not one of those years was by my own choice. We moved there when I was a child, then I met and married a guy who said he couldn't live anywhere else, although it would have made more sense to live in my home area because of his job. I wasn't actively discontented there, just not very happy overall.

I had (and still have) friends there, but I am more settled where I live now than I ever was there. Sometimes, you just don't like a place.

ColeHawlins Mon 04-Mar-19 07:37:08

* If it's Cov, I can't blame you for not loving it.*

Have to agree.

We've been somewhere similar for the last few years (for work). Some places just aren't cosy or settling.

I reckon I've got one more move in me before I hit proper middle age and want to settle for good. I'm going to choose VERY carefully.

Jezzifishie Mon 04-Mar-19 12:51:03

Barbara's hit the nail on the head, it's Cov.
I can't face another house move right now, but I don't want to be here forever either!

HennyPennyHorror Mon 04-Mar-19 21:23:05

Do you mean Coventry? But it's ancient! Even though it was destroyed in the Blitz, there's history everywhere!

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