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Fall out - ex friends won't cancel one friends share

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Getmyfrownupsidedown Sat 02-Mar-19 16:47:30

Five friends booked a fairly expensive holiday. No need for details but think mean girls mentality - four against one.

All four unfriended Friend 1. Fair enough, everyone is adult enough to decide who they want to be friends with.

However, Friend 1 - understandably - does not want to now go on holiday with four girls that are mean to her. She is not entitled to full refund but will get a % back if she cancels. This would mean four friends have to pay a nominal increase. All can comfortably afford it.

Four friends refusing to cancel Friend 1 booking.

SummerHouse Sat 02-Mar-19 16:50:52

What's the nominal increase. Can't friend 1 cover the increase and at least get some back.

Alsohuman Sat 02-Mar-19 16:53:13

Why doesn’t friend1 just cancel it herself?

Houseonahill Sat 02-Mar-19 16:53:15

Can't friend 1 just ring and cancel I don't see why she needs permission? (Never booked a group holiday so i dont know) I also think.its very unfair to expect someone else to subsidise a holiday they aren't even going on.

GemmeFatale Sat 02-Mar-19 16:56:17

I’m assuming you’re friend one. Tell them you’re going on the holiday and will bring another friend along. Magically they’ll have already cancelled your space and the money will be with you this week

Getmyfrownupsidedown Sat 02-Mar-19 16:57:51

I think it cancels itself out i.e. the total of 4 individual increase is around the total of Friend 1 refund. The refund would be in the hundreds @ 30/40% of total paid. Friend 1 will already out of pocket for a substantial amount.

Getmyfrownupsidedown Sat 02-Mar-19 16:59:20

Sorry no, I'm not any of the parties. I'm a friend of Friend 1. She tried to cancel but was told it can only be the person that booked the holiday, which is one of the mean girls.

The mean girls are all very well off.

Bayleyf Sat 02-Mar-19 16:59:59

So, in effect friend one is expecting the others to pay her share?

Depends on the circumstances of the all out, but unless it was obviously 100% not friend one's fault, I wouldn't expect the others to do that.

Nellieelephant Sat 02-Mar-19 17:00:36

Well obviously friend 1 can’t subsidise a holiday she is no longer going on! (Or welcome on from the sounds of it!)
Maybe friend 2,3,4 and 5 should’ve thought about how being mean girls might affect the cost of the holiday should friend 1 pull out before being nasty bitches.

If they won’t sort of the cancellation (which if they are being nasty already clearly they’re not going to do anything helpful) then friend 1 needs to call the holiday place and cancel it herself.

Dutch1e Sat 02-Mar-19 17:00:49

I'm with GemmeFatale on this one. Threaten to go on the holiday with an extra. And follow through if need be.

But can't Friend 1 cancel alone?

MakeItRain Sat 02-Mar-19 17:02:17

Is there any chance friend 1 can take a friend or even go alone and try to avoid them? Or does it involve room sharing?

Getmyfrownupsidedown Sat 02-Mar-19 17:03:44

@Bayleyf
No. Friend 1 would like to scrape back some of the amount paid for a holiday she is not going on - around 30%, She loses around 70% that she has already paid. The mean girls do not need to pay this.

The mean girls will have to pay an increase in their own holiday cost - I think it's because of room occupancy? But it is only a fraction more.

ChakiraChakra Sat 02-Mar-19 17:04:37

They fell out with her, of course she should be able to cancel. confused

And if I were her, I wouldn't really give two shits about if they had to pay more because they had made my position on the holiday untenable. Tough titties.

BoneyBackJefferson Sat 02-Mar-19 17:05:15

Some questions

Has she already paid the "her share"?
Was she partially to blame for the fall out?

Chloemol Sat 02-Mar-19 17:06:15

If I was friend 1 I would be sending an email to all 4 stating exactly why they are being unfair to me and asking them to do the decent thing and cancel my share and give me the money back. If they then refuse I would say that’s fobe I will be instructing solicitors to sue them for the refund, if necessary going to court and their behaviour will then be exposed. I have a solicitor friend so would be prepared to carry this out. I hate mean girls with a vengeance

HomeMadeMadness Sat 02-Mar-19 17:06:17

I'd also threaten to just go on the holiday with an extra. Mean girls can't have it both way. If they're no longer friends then obviously this girl isn't welcome on holiday and shouldn't have to pay.

Getmyfrownupsidedown Sat 02-Mar-19 17:07:01

It involves room sharing unfortunately.

Not too out too much... but Friend 1 has tried mediating and compromise. Mean girls have blocked all communications and refusing to cancel.

The said some really, really nasty things to Friend 1 - I've seen the messages and Friend 1 responses.

If it was me, I certainly wouldn't want to breath the same air as them, let alone be stuck on holiday with them.

These are grown woman we are talking about too - 30s/40s.

Nellieelephant Sat 02-Mar-19 17:07:06

Well if friend 1 can’t cancel herself then the only thing would be threatening legal action I would’ve thought? Although how likely it would be to get any money back that way I wouldn’t have a clue.

I think the idea of adding an extra person as friend 1’s friend a really good idea.

If they won’t add an extra or you can’t use it as leverage to get a refund could one of friend 1’s friends book the same flights/hotel/activities to the already planned holiday?

bibbitybobbityyhat Sat 02-Mar-19 17:07:09

I'm curious about the falling out with friend 1. What did she do? Are the other 4 really being mean? I think the back story would affect my opinion on whether friend 1 should pay her share.

MakeItRain Sat 02-Mar-19 17:07:33

I think I'd be tempted to say I was still going. Or is there a chance they wouldn't give her her tickets etc?

LyraLieIn Sat 02-Mar-19 17:07:47

I don't really understand - can't she just refused to pay any more towards the holiday, thereby saving the remaining 30 percent?

Getmyfrownupsidedown Sat 02-Mar-19 17:08:22

Holiday paid in full.
I've seen conversations and can't see where Friend 1 was at fault. It just looks like changing lifestyles.

CinammonPorridge Sat 02-Mar-19 17:10:26

I would speak to the manager of the holiday company.

I would either find a friend to come with me or go alone on the holiday.

ChakiraChakra Sat 02-Mar-19 17:12:10

Just caught up on updates.

I'd defo threaten small claims court. They're effectively stealing from her.

Is the place they are going somewhere she could get accommodation elsewhere cheaply?

recrudescence Sat 02-Mar-19 17:12:18

Friend 1 should go and do everything she can to spoil the holiday for the others.

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