I've followed mn for years and finally joined this morning as being a mum is in the planning stages!
My bf and I are both 30, have rented together for 2 years, have a dog and have always positively discussed children and marriage in the future. We started dating in college over a decade ago and have been a solid item ever since, we moved in together when it felt right for us and our careers had stabilised enough to afford it.
We have discussed ttc from September this year, it will give me a few months to work on my diet (I'm not overweight), I have share dividends due around then so buying a house will be more achievable and I'd like time to really plan and enjoy the experience. I thought wrongly that the question would be popped soon but a big bust up last night revealed that he now doesn't see the point in marriage and has no intention of proposing.
We both have generous incomes and there is no financial reason why we can't have a simple ceremony (a big wedding wouldn't suit me at all), he suggested changing my last name to his by deed poll or booking at a registrars if i insisted but I would then miss out on the romantic gesture I've always dreamed of and also don't want to march him down the registrar office if it's really not what he wants. Marriage itself is important to me for many reasons including being a legal partnership, taking vows and sharing a family name, as a side note both our parents are happily married. Of course I still see myself with this man for the rest of my life but I resent the fact that engagement and marriage has been taken away as an option so late in the game. The discussion is at a stale mate and I'm very upset about it.
AIBU? Has the romance of any proposal died after 13 years and planning a family do you think? WWYD? Should I just suck it up, have his children and forever be a Miss?
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Lakesideshona · 02/03/2019 08:32
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