Just wondering if I could get an outsider's perspective on a complicated/awkward inheritance situation.
My Spanish mum died when I was young. Her parents have just died and have left me in their will to inherit an eighth of their estate consisting of a couple of houses and some land in Spain. My 7 aunts and uncles have also inherited an eighth.
The houses/land are obviously difficult to divide up between 8 so the aunts/uncles would like to assign 2/3 people to each thing. Each share is worth around 30k euros.
I'm very touched grandparents left me in the will to take on what would have been my mum's part. However, I strongly get the feeling my aunts/uncles what me to reject my part. I think they feel I'm less deserving as a grandchild rather than child. They have been saying some things which I feel are to try and put me off. Such as, suggesting the tax is going to be a headache for me to sort out between Spain and UK. One of my aunts has also offered me to inherit the material goods such as furniture instead of actual property - she says in order to relieve me of all the paperwork which is going to be a nightmare.
Part of me is thinking shall I just reject it in order to avoid arguments? Falling out over it isn't worth it to me and I'd rather loose my share than do this. I would be devastated if it all ended sourly. I've visited them every year since I was 10 to maintain the connection and they're all the family I've got left on my mum's side.
A couple of things to consider are that the 7 of them have been sorting all the paperwork/dealing with paperwork which has been very stressful for them. I haven't done any of this as I'm in the UK. So is it fair for me to get same share as them when they're putting all the work in? Also, they looked after my grandparents throughout old age and no doubt spent lots of money on their care. I haven't asked them about this as they are quite cagey about it all. However, I know my mum used to send money back home in the 80s and contributed to a flat the grandparents bought. No idea how much. I think she would want me to take on her part to represent her. And I'm guessing when my aunts/uncles die they will want their children to inherit their part.
Any ideas on what seems fair? Very tricky/awkward situation. Another thing I've just remembered is that when I visited recently they gave me 500 euros between them as a present for my newborn daughter. I'm just wondering if they were implying a pay off. Or maybe I'm overthinking it. It's so hard as I don't feel they're being straight with me.
Thanks in advance
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Snoopy90 · 01/03/2019 23:27
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