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Teachers said my DD didn't have enough to eat

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StoppinBy Fri 01-Mar-19 23:18:16

First off I think I am BU at how much I let this upset me for personal reasons but I am seeking clarification on whether I actually do send her enough.

When I picked up DD6 the teacher in charge at the time said to me that one of DD's teachers had said that I wasn't sending enough for her to eat, yesterday she had :

A vegemite sandwich, two cherry tomatoes, an apple, a chunk of cheese cut off the block and a big handful of nuts, she brought home a cherry tomato, some of her crust and some of her nuts .

The reasoning behind saying she didn't have enough food was that she had eaten her sandwich and a tomato and her cheese at 'snack time' - 11am and then had her nuts and apple at lunch - 1pm. Apparently she often does this.

We usually have lunch at 11:30 - 12 at home to fit around DS's naps so personally I can't see the issue with how she ate and I feel that if she was actually hungry that she would eat everything in her lunch box but she regularly brings stuff home.

AIBU to think that she does have enough food and that the teachers are actually wrong or do most kids eat more than that?

OwlinaTree Fri 01-Mar-19 23:20:17

Maybe the teacher didn't know how much she'd eaten at snack time and though all she had was an apple and nuts?

GerryblewuptheER Fri 01-Mar-19 23:20:39

If she was hungry shed have finished it.

Sounds fine to me.

Cheese and nuts have alot of protein and fat. Its more filling.

ChakiraChakra Fri 01-Mar-19 23:21:27

I guess if you're worried send her with more food, and see if she eats it. But if she's bringing stuff back, and it's stuff she's had some of then it doesn't seem like that's a problem.

How about making her a round and a half of sandwich?

Littlefish Fri 01-Mar-19 23:22:38

Maybe dd had told her teacher that she was hungry in the afternoon?

StoppinBy Fri 01-Mar-19 23:22:40

@owlinatree she actually told me that DD had eaten her lunch at snack and then only had her snack to eat at lunch so they did know she had eaten the sandwich at snack.

FamilyOfAliens Fri 01-Mar-19 23:22:52

Perhaps she came into the lunch hall with a lunchbox containing just an apple and some nuts, so that’s all they saw?

What did you say to the teacher? Did you explain she’d already eaten most of her packed lunch at morning break?

(To be honest, I think it’s a shame she spends her break time eating instead of playing with her friends).

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Fri 01-Mar-19 23:23:07

Can you send nuts to your school!? (So not the point)

Id send more and see if she eats it. Maybe a savoury muffin or cake.

Is she underweight?

angelikacpickles Fri 01-Mar-19 23:23:15

I think that sounds like plenty - my 5 and 8 year olds bring less than that.

babycatcher411 Fri 01-Mar-19 23:24:05

Is she eating stuff for pack up that she eats at home? Are you happy she likes what you pack her, is it possible to left stuff because she doesn’t like it, thus ended up hungry?

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Fri 01-Mar-19 23:24:49

Could she do with more breakfast so she doesnt need so much at snack?

Ours are only allowed veg/fruit at snack (a whole other issue) but cant eat their lunch!

StoppinBy Fri 01-Mar-19 23:25:13

I feel it's enough food, to be honest I was more upset that they had 'noticed' me 'neglecting' my child by apparently not sending in enough food so I was wondering what other parents thought of how much she was eating/getting for the day.

DD actually told the teacher she wasn't hungry so I genuinely think it's something that they thought was a problem and not DD.

FamilyOfAliens Fri 01-Mar-19 23:26:05

Did they use the word “neglect”?

FamilyOfAliens Fri 01-Mar-19 23:27:48

How about giving her a bigger breakfast so that she doesn’t spend her break time eating, and can have a play with her friends and a run around?

Msgiggles30 Fri 01-Mar-19 23:28:46

I am a teacher and couldnt imagine our children going to get thier sandwich out for snack time, most schools only allow fruit for snack and then provide milk/water. It sounds like enough to me but maybe could add extra fruit so she could say have fruit and cheese at snack and specify the rest for lunch

lazymare Fri 01-Mar-19 23:29:58

I don't think you should be sending nuts into school.

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Fri 01-Mar-19 23:30:21

Yep its possibly the getting her lunch out at snack time and only having apple and nuts for "lunch" that is concerning them.

StoppinBy Fri 01-Mar-19 23:30:37

They get a set amount of time to eat once the bell goes and then the 'play' bell goes and they go out to play.

She won't eat any more breakfast that she already does (we usually have banana porridge).

She is not underweight, a perfectly healthy weight.

They eat in the classroom so always with the same teachers with them.

Yes they can take nuts - the current allergies in her class at the moment are some GF children and a child who is allergic to fruit and vegetables so they teach the children food safety/ hand washing after eating etc rather than exclude foods.

DD doesn't eat cake or muffins (never has but loves eating the batter wink ).

lazymare Fri 01-Mar-19 23:30:42

I am a teacher and couldnt imagine our children going to get thier sandwich out for snack time, most schools only allow fruit for snack and then provide milk/water.

Utter bollocks.

Msgiggles30 Fri 01-Mar-19 23:31:01

I actually think that's a really healthy lunch. Im an adult (an overweight one at that) and all id have for lunch is a wholemeal sandwich one peice of fruit and maybe a youghrt. Ive had children literally have one pain au chocolat as thier whole lunch now that would worry me not this

Drogosnextwife Fri 01-Mar-19 23:32:05

Sounds like plenty too me, just stick an extra thing in infuture then if she is hungry she will eat it, if not and she leaves a lot every day cut it back again and tell the teacher she's coming home with food that's wasted because she's not hungry.

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Fri 01-Mar-19 23:32:34


Why bollocks? Its the norm in schools around here. I wasn't keen but kids have been fine with it.

Msgiggles30 Fri 01-Mar-19 23:32:39

How so lazymare?

StoppinBy Fri 01-Mar-19 23:32:44

@lazymare, thank you so much for your helpful advice... should I also not send fruit and vegetables and there is a child in her class who is allergic to most fruit and vegetables?

SwimmingJustKeepSwimming Fri 01-Mar-19 23:34:24

Yep you'd think theyd ve looking more at the kid with a leftover mcdonalds every day.... or just a packet of crisps!

And porridge sounds a good breakfast, and not underweight! Mayve just send some extra bits in for a while and if they get left stop again?

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