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To really not like my teenage daughters sometimes

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Twogirlsandme Fri 01-Mar-19 20:01:28

Sometimes I just really don’t like them. That’s it really. I do t like their behaviour, I don’t like their attitude and sometimes I wish they would just go away (temporarily...kind of!)

AnyFucker Fri 01-Mar-19 20:05:18


Aprilshowersarecomingsoon Fri 01-Mar-19 20:06:25

Couldn't have said it better op! Dd's are 12+13 and omg.
Coping tactics here include - sleepovers, they adopt decent behaviour in front of their friends!! They spend the duration in their bedrooms - a big bonus!! And prior to the sleepover they need to do chores to 'earn' pizza /snack money!!

ghostyslovesheets Fri 01-Mar-19 20:06:29


Nnnnnineteen Fri 01-Mar-19 20:07:07

I totally get it.

Twogirlsandme Fri 01-Mar-19 20:08:03

Oh thank god for that. Was feeling like a total bitch. Thanks for cheering me up

Tcga745 Fri 01-Mar-19 20:08:40

Possibly reasonable, just don’t tell them.

Pimmsypimms Fri 01-Mar-19 20:08:57

I have a 14 year old dd whom I love dearly but sometimes dislike. She can be so rude, entitled and lazy. I miss the loving little girl she used to be, I guess that's hormones for you sad

EntirelyAnonymised Fri 01-Mar-19 20:09:20

It’s natures way of preparing you for when they leave home. It makes it less painful.

wishingforapositiveyear Fri 01-Mar-19 20:17:28

I'm with you ! I love DD but at the moment don't like her personality hoping her old personality returns when puberty is done. DD is so shallow at the moment and quite unkind and bitchy about and to others, everyday is a fresh guilt trip to fund labels way out of my price range. Since when did teenagers need real LV bags (DD doesn't) but apparently it's now my fault she feel like a poor child with nothing 🙄

EmeraldShamrock Fri 01-Mar-19 20:18:43

It will get better, my DM hated me in my teen years and I don't blame her, We became really close again, I do everything for her but I still cringe when I think back to some things I said to her. sad
My DD is only 10, I've noticed a huge change in her attitude along with her new pimples, I am dreading her in the teen years.

OxanaVorontsova Fri 01-Mar-19 20:19:17

I have 15 yo twin girls and think I just might be glimpsing the light at end of the tunnel, so hang on in there!

yummumto3girls Fri 01-Mar-19 20:19:29

Feeling the pain with you all tonight! Middle DD age 14 is just vile. I bought a DVD both she and I wanted to watch tonight, in the hope I could encourage her out of her room to spend time with me, whilst oldest DD is out - just caught her watching it alone in her room! She doesn’t doesn’t care about anyone, constantly rude, causes arguments - life is very peaceful when she is at her friends!😫

2isur2isubicurtis4me Fri 01-Mar-19 20:21:25

As my Mum said many times, I don't have to like you but I do love you.

I have changed this a bit for my sons, I don't have to like your behaviour but I do love you.

Most the time thankfully I do like them but OMG! They can be shits.

This too shall pass thanks

sweetkitty Fri 01-Mar-19 20:23:50

I have one too
14yo DD1 this week she has skipped school and come in with a lovebite. She steals my make up and lies about it. We are the strictest, tightest parents ever take her phone off her at 10pm as she’d been up all night, don’t give her £50 a week and allow her out to all times.

Where’s my gorgeous little girl gone?

EyeOfTheTigger Fri 01-Mar-19 20:24:47

I love my 20yr old to pieces but dislike her sometimes (often) sullen attitude and the fact she's lazy and workshy. I really hope she grows out of this phase in the next few years.

AstonMartini Fri 01-Mar-19 20:28:29

I am with you, OP. My DD was the most gorgeous, sweet, kind, loving little girl. She is an eye-rolling, entitled, rude, almost-15-yo. Like PP, I don't over-indulge her (she gets a modest allowance, no designer stuff, I take her phone off her at night, have reasonable but reliable boundaries) - but she's still foul.

By contrast, 17 yo DS (who was absolutely horrendous until he was about 13) has been a dream teenager.


boredboredboredboredbored Fri 01-Mar-19 20:41:06

Yes I understand. Mines 15 and wonderful most of the time. It's the eye rolling and huffing that gets me. Also one minute she's my side kick then she thinks I'm naff!! I try and not take it personally but it can be hard!!!

Busybusybust Fri 01-Mar-19 20:43:11

Nobody likes their teenage daughters. It’s the law.

yummumto3girls Fri 01-Mar-19 20:47:14

Not all daughters are the same! My oldest, now 18 is a dream, loves spending time with me, loving, kind, DD2 won’t even walk down the street with me, I find it so upsetting but realise this is normal teenage behaviour and I got away lightly with the first one!

exWifebeginsat40 Fri 01-Mar-19 20:47:52

my DD came home from uni last week. within seconds of getting through the door she was in a massive huff over who even knows what.

the day before she went back was spent huddled in her room, sulking about the wrong sort of crisps in the cupboard. approximately five words exchanged all day.

she got on the coach to go back, rang me an hour later and happily chatted for an hour and a half.

i remain baffled. hideous child.

exWifebeginsat40 Fri 01-Mar-19 20:48:40

(she will be 19 this summer)

weegiemum Fri 01-Mar-19 20:53:42

Having gone through it with 2 girls (plus ds who was a bigger diva than either of his sisters) I'd say 14 is the worst. Dd2 is 15y3m and a much nicer young woman than 6 months ago. Dd1 is now 19 and a real pleasure to spend time with, as is ds (17).

Zerrin13 Fri 01-Mar-19 21:22:25

My daughter is 14 in 2 weeks time. She really is awful. Life is so much peaceful when she isn't at home. I know things will get better as she gets older. Luckily for here I love the bones of her??

RedTartanLass Fri 01-Mar-19 21:28:39

Wow needed this thread tonight. In bed crying with frustration. There is absolutely no joy in being a parent to teenagers. They're only nice to you when they want something. You're not allowed to look at them never mind touch them.

However they are amazing, polite and kind with everyone else .... so I'm hanging on in there.

Thanks feel better reading others trials.

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