I'm not listing his many virtues, because that's not what I'm ranting about. Just know that he's got them or I wouldn't have married him. But!! My husband has form for being a passive aggressive tool at times. Especially if he's ill or tired. Stuff like "I'll take this stack of towels up stairs that nobody has bothered with any of the times they've walked past." Or "I'll just put this milk away since nobody seems to know that it goes in the fridge." He'll even repeat it louder if he thinks that people didn't hear him. In fact, he rarely does anything around the house without being asked, unless he's either making a comment like that or listing off the minor things he's done and expecting a round of applause. But this week he's one upped himself by being a hypocritical dickhead with it! He's been ill this week, which has meant loads of passive aggressive comments and jumping on every minor thing he thinks he can whinge about. A bit poorly and that clearly means he can languish in the bedroom, take all his meals in there and watch Netflix all day. I catch the same shit and still have to get on with everything but never bloody mind that! Our teenaged DC catches it, and is actually worse, and DH can't understand why they are staying in bed "milking it" and why they are having food in their room, since that's "against the rules." It is (due to mouldy cup and gross exploded yoghurt incident), but why should the exemption only apply to his illness and not DC's? He seems to think DC should be completing chores and looking over schoolwork while exhausted from all night coughing, swollen throat, painful ears and burning up, but he himself is allowed to treat this week as if it's some unofficial holiday and not lift a finger- unless he gets to make snarky, passive aggressive comments about the tiny task he has completed that was a drop in the sodding ocean of housework and extra work that he is making!!
AIBU to tell him he either shuts his trap and stops being such a selfish bloody hypocrite or he sods off to a budget hotel to complete his illness there? I'm not unsympathetic, but I've been waiting on him and tending him like he's a patient in a private hospital all week, and he begrudges our child the same care, gives me loads of shitty attitude, makes me feel inadequate due to tiny tasks not completed and takes every available opportunity to sulk or bitch and whinge!! I'm exhausted by it! I've got an ill child, other children, I'm unwell myself... I've had enough!