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AIBU to think that Fathers don't love their sons more than their daughters?

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PickledLimes Fri 01-Mar-19 13:35:06

A friend says her husband is adamant that a Father will never love a daughter as much as he loves a son. (They have two boys and a third child of unknown sex on the way) AIBU to think that though this may be true of some men(including her husband) but that it isn't true of the vast majority? She seems to think that it's true of most men.

DandySeaLioness Fri 01-Mar-19 13:36:01

I call BS.

BackforGood Fri 01-Mar-19 13:37:52

She is talking rubbish.

PickledLimes Fri 01-Mar-19 13:39:07

Personally I think he's a dick, I'm not especially fond of him, but I also think that he'll change his mind if his third is a daughter.

ChipsAreLife Fri 01-Mar-19 13:39:45

Does that mean mums love their daughters more? She sounds like a bit of tit who is trying to make people with daughters feel shit

Singlenotsingle Fri 01-Mar-19 13:40:12

Oh ffs! My DS loves his son but he adores his daughter!

Jellyonawonkyplate Fri 01-Mar-19 13:42:20

It's taboo but I do think most men want at least one son.

Jellyonawonkyplate Fri 01-Mar-19 13:42:51

Whether they admit it is another matter though.

DiscontinuedModelHusband Fri 01-Mar-19 13:43:52

i love DD15 just as much as DS13 and DS9.

they're all very different, and our relationships are very different, but i want the same happiness for all of them (and strive equally to achieve the same for each)

fulltimeworkingmotherof4 Fri 01-Mar-19 13:44:30

Dads and their daughters have a special bond I think, different from that to their sons but I don't think they love them any different

happierever Fri 01-Mar-19 13:44:34

I don't think they love them more they just have more in common. My DP looks football my son plays and they support the same team so it's shared interests. He is less enthused about the gymnastics competition

MarshaBradyo Fri 01-Mar-19 13:45:17

No way is that true

Catinthetwat Fri 01-Mar-19 13:46:33

What an awful sentiment. It's only true of people who don't actually love their children for who they are, rather for some superficial characteristic or perceived shared interest.

Condoning this treatment of children is unbelievable, it's emotionally abusive. Although, I've definitely seen this in action, so I know it happens.

MeetMeInMontauk Fri 01-Mar-19 13:46:50

Top marks to OP's friend for perpetuating the toxic masculinity narrative, though.

2rachtin Fri 01-Mar-19 13:48:18

@Jellyonawonkyplate it's one thing wanting a particular sex but another think loving them more because of it!

I don't think it's at all true.

Bleurghthatisall Fri 01-Mar-19 13:50:27

My husband really wanted a son but got 3 daughters instead grin that’s life. He’s happy and they are as adored (and spoilt) as any children could be.

Catinthetwat Fri 01-Mar-19 13:50:33

He is less enthused about the gymnastics competition

This is so sad though, because it isn't about him. What he likes should be totally irrelevant, because he's there to watch his child.

turncloak Fri 01-Mar-19 13:53:02

It's taboo but I do think most men want at least one son.

Completely agree. DH is head over heels in love with our DDs (and they him - very much Daddy's girls) but I think he would have liked a son. He would never admit it though.

Toooldtocareanymore Fri 01-Mar-19 13:56:45

yet we constantly hear the term a daddy's girl, to describe a dad and dd having a very close and cosseted relationship, not so much a mummy's boy being used in a positive way. Of course her husband hasn't a clue what he's talking about -he's got no daughters, and your friend is presumably reflecting her fathers relationship he had with her.

Angelicinnocent Fri 01-Mar-19 13:57:35

Disagree, DH has more in common with DS and loves him totally but DD is his baby girl and has him wrapped around her little finger. He adores her.

SumAndSubstance Fri 01-Mar-19 14:00:37

It's taboo but I do think most men want at least one son.

In my experience, this is true only of men who are obsessed with watching and/or playing sport, usually football.

Jellyonawonkyplate Fri 01-Mar-19 14:04:02

In my experience, this is true only of men who are obsessed with watching and/or playing sport, usually football.

In some cases maybe but my opinion is that they have more of a need for a 'mini-me' more than women do, regardless of whether they play/like sport or not.

oldfatgreycat Fri 01-Mar-19 14:04:43

I assumed it may be the other way round tbh.

KidLorneRoll Fri 01-Mar-19 14:04:46

Bullshit, obviously.

StinkyCandle Fri 01-Mar-19 14:05:27

you most love the child that is currently the least annoying, it's not gender related.

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