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Was IBU to freeze DD’s hamster?

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SandyDrawsBadly Fri 01-Mar-19 09:33:54

I came downstairs on DDs Birthday to find that Wonder Woman the hamster was dead. Stupid fucking hamster

I didn’t want to upset DD on her birthday so didn’t tell her before I dropped her at school. I doubled checked when I got home in case it had been sleeping, but this was one cold dead stiff hamster and it’s red eyes were all grey, so it was definitely dead.

I didn’t want to ruin her birthday, but I didn’t want a slowly decomposing hamster in the warm living room either. so I popped it into a freezer bag and hid it underneath the frozen veg out of the way. I got her out the next day, defrosted her in the cage and “discovered” her death the next morning. Two days post birthday.

I was telling my friend but she said this was ridiculous over protective parenting.

So, was I unreasonable to freeze the hamster and has anyone else done stuff to save upset as I can’t be the only one, surely!

Bellasorellaa Mon 11-Mar-19 23:51:45

The hamster is going to haunt you for calling it a stupid fucking hamster
Don’t look under your bed at night

OhGodWhatTheHellNow Mon 11-Mar-19 23:47:39

Seems perfectly reasonable to me - just hanging around for the illustration now... pretty please with sugar on it?

mumwithatum Mon 11-Mar-19 19:40:05

Wonder pets!! Love it 😂😂😂

Mmmhmmm Thu 07-Mar-19 22:32:56

Hmm it probably says something about me that I don't find the OP that weird. grin

Bluebobolink Thu 07-Mar-19 22:25:15

I think it was genius, and presumably the OP knows their own child and how they would react to the death of a pet. Freezing it was a good plan - my beloved python died but they sleep a lot, and i'd just come out of hospital, checked it as always (tropical snakes need a lot of care and attention..) but assumed it was just sleeping. Until the smell started. Oh gods. Decomposing critter is not something you need to experience...

justaweeone Sun 03-Mar-19 17:44:43

I would have done exactly the same
Years ago we looked after someone's hamster and my cats ate it just leaving the head!
I took a photo of it and went to pets at home to get a replacement but didn't realise they sell young ones and this one was a few years older now 🤦‍♀️
So that didn't work and had to confess shock

Nothininmenoggin Sun 03-Mar-19 17:38:35

After 2 nights of 13hr shifts no breaks and about to go in for my 3rd night this is the only thing that has made laugh out loud all weekend. Sorry bout hamster tho.

dugupdeadcat Sun 03-Mar-19 17:32:03

Freezing a dead hamster is nothing. I've NC for this as it's so unbelievably outing.

DH, bless him, loves me dearly. So much so, that when I was pregnant and we moved house, he dug up our dead cat (she'd been dead and buried 3 years at that point) so I could take her with us. Admittedly she'd been buried wrapped in a blanket, which made it considerably easier.

If we move again (likely) he's resigned himself to digging up a few more. He's asked that they're then cremated, so he doesn't have to do it again.

Yes, I am totally unhinged! Yes, DH loves me - A LOT.

Mother87 Sun 03-Mar-19 17:24:19

Just thought Dimebag - at what point did she realise it wasn't deadconfused?

Mother87 Sun 03-Mar-19 17:23:32


Mother87 Sun 03-Mar-19 17:22:00

Actually... we DID have to put our cat in the freezer (after it had been found on a road round the corner) because i was away/DS then aged 15/16 didn't want to bury it before I got back... the lady who found her (a very 'experienced' cat lady) said it's 'normal' to do that if there has to be a delay for some reason. It WAS our extra/almost emptyblushfreezer in the garage... and said cat was buried as soon as I got homethanks

Mother87 Sun 03-Mar-19 17:18:41


Bellatrix14 Sun 03-Mar-19 17:10:27

I am always very confused by the idea that hamsters need to be played with and entertained (by humans, I realise they need stuff to climb and play with), especially Syrian hamsters. They are primarily solitary animals that don’t like engaging with their own species very much, surely they’re not going to be especially bothered by lack of human affection or the potential disinterest of younger children confused It seems to go against their natural ‘personality’?

I think you did the right thing, OP. I agree with others that your daughter probably isn’t ready for the responsibility of pet ownership if she didn’t notice it wasn’t in its cage on the second evening (the birthday I understand!) but you’ve already said you’re not getting another one so it’s a bit of a moot point! I hope she enjoyed her birthday smile

Oblomov19 Sun 03-Mar-19 16:55:32

Seems a bit OTT. I would have just told her.

SynchroSwimmer Sun 03-Mar-19 16:52:18

I think what you did was brilliant. It was absolutely the right thing to do.
You should be commended.

Your daughter would forever remember on her birthdays going forward, that her beloved hamster died that day.

I think it was very considered and thoughtful of you.

I had a similar birthday/aged cat scenario....

My granny also never forgave my grandpa for dying “on her birthday”, he did it deliberately (apparently!)...we thought it humorous as kids, bit now being bereaved myself, well I understand.....

ToftyAC Sun 03-Mar-19 16:33:23

I don’t think it’s mental behaviour. Highly amusing definitely. But I can see why you did it. It’s not like you were trying to spare your DD her hamster’s death, just not ruin her birthday. I don’t think you were being unreasonable or overprotective. I shall remember this thread if one of the guinea pigs is found dead as a door nail on DS’s Birthday 👍

TroysMammy Sun 03-Mar-19 09:16:29

I had an inherited hamster that died on New Year's Eve and I discovered it the next morning. It was raining heavily and I couldn't be arsed to dig a hole. Even though I didn't have a hangover I didn't want to get wet. I wrapped it up in toilet paper and left it for a few days and buried it when it stopped raining. As it hadn't moved I knew it was truly dead and not hibernating.

SandyDrawsBadly Sun 03-Mar-19 09:08:03

I only thought it was a stupid fucking hamster for choosing to die on her birthday of all days.

But fear not! We shall no be getting another hamster. We’ve got a stupid fucking cat now instead. grin

Delighted to find out that up and down the country there are hundreds of pets nestling in with the chicken dippers and peas and I’m not the only parent who goes this far!

OwlBeThere Sun 03-Mar-19 05:02:56

my sons guinea pig died on his birthday, he still remembers it and gets sad about it 6 years later. i'm sure if it had happened a different day he'd not have had it etched quite so deeply in his psyche. though, he does have asd which means he may have, but for that reason i don't think it was over protective, a bit of an odd way to go about it maybe, but i understand totally why you did it!

Catsinthecupboard Sun 03-Mar-19 04:04:02

My dd is 20. I almost went to store to replace her dead beta (Japanese fighting) fish when i thought it was dead. She's going to school from home and it is mid terms. I didn't want her upset during tests.

Obviously you're a good mother.

mokapot Sun 03-Mar-19 02:43:49

Absolutely pissed myself reading this
How on earth did you even thing of this plan? You’d make a great serial killer op

vintanner Sun 03-Mar-19 00:43:28


OJZJ Sun 03-Mar-19 00:25:14

Ps sorry for your loss, I rather like rodents...

OJZJ Sun 03-Mar-19 00:24:40

Also popped a deceased hamster into the freezer in the middle of a heatwave last summer for a few days as didn't want to upset son's party and turn it into a wake etc so not over parenting by my standards at all,

Dimebag10M Sat 02-Mar-19 23:19:53

My friend did this - turned out the hamster wasn't actually dead

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