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PutsFootInIt Thu 28-Feb-19 22:10:18

My daughter had a tantrum last night because I told her she couldn't be the mother of the bride at my wedding to her father. She's 3. Should I just dress her up in a pastel dress and matching jacket and put a fascinator on her head?

JellyBaby666 Fri 01-Mar-19 10:54:27

This thread has made me smile so much on a miserable Friday morning!

I remember being distraught finding my parents wedding photos, and discovering they had got married without me (7 years before I was born, in fact) and cried for ages about it! I think I was about 4?

DontCallMeCharlotte Fri 01-Mar-19 11:09:14

The only trouble with a strongly worded text is that can she claim if she can't read it (yet), it doesn't count?

OlennasWimple You're absolutely right about Jaques Vert but, having said that, I bought a Jaques Vert wool swing coat in the late 90s (I was in my early 30s) and it keeps coming in and out of style. It's such good quality, it just won't die! I bought it with a bonus and it cost a fortune at the time but it's probably cost about tuppence per wear! The Duchess of Cambridge I am not.

willowmelangell Fri 01-Mar-19 11:16:52

Make sure she has a very large handkerchief, for dabbing her eyes and clutching.

Omzlas Fri 01-Mar-19 11:45:35

Mint green is all the rage. With a huge fucking fascinator. And patent heels with a matching handbag.

And photos or it didn't happen!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Fri 01-Mar-19 12:13:32

This thread reminds me of the MNer who asked her little sister, who had Down's syndrome, to be the ring bearer at her wedding.

The little sister was a HUGE Lord of the Rings fan, so decided she was going to be THE ring bearer - ie. Frodo Baggins, rather than wearing a pretty dress and carrying the rings on a cushion - and once she learned this, the MNer totally went with it - and the wedding photos all have a fully costumed hobbit, front and centre.

It absolutely made the day for the MNer and her dh, and her little sister too!

CountFosco Fri 01-Mar-19 12:29:59

Just be glad she only wants to be MotB. Our DC desperately want us to marry (again!) so they can go on 'Marrying Mum and Dad' and organise the whole thing. Which some MotB want to do obviously...

Amibeingnaive Fri 01-Mar-19 12:32:52

My 7 year old is really pissed off that I won't divorce her father and marry her instead. Or let her marry her brother. Or her cousins.

I'm controlling, aren't I?

LondonBelongsToMe Fri 01-Mar-19 12:39:58

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius that is the best thing I've ever read on this godforsaken website.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Fri 01-Mar-19 12:58:02

The poster was DoubleNegativePanda, and her post is part way through this thread - and there are even some photos!

howwillwedeal Fri 01-Mar-19 13:00:54

I suggest you have a child free wedding, she sounds like trouble!

LoisWilkerson1 Fri 01-Mar-19 13:03:51

grin She sounds very demanding op. Go no contact.

Greyhound22 Fri 01-Mar-19 13:05:22

DS was 3 when we got married. I had him totally primed that he had to sit by Nanny etc as the Vicar had already voiced disapproval at children up the front etc. He never left our side. There is a photo of us all three of us kneeling at the front of the church with him next to me holding my hand. Went down a treat with the guests. The vicar sighed and gave up.

He still says 'that's where we got married Mummy' when we drive past the church.

ThatssomebadhatHarry Fri 01-Mar-19 13:06:25

My daughter was given the title ‘wedding captain’ at our wedding. Had it printed on her gifts too. She still tells people about it.

spiderlight Fri 01-Mar-19 13:07:17

@ SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius That photo has made my WEEK!!

Kismetjayn Fri 01-Mar-19 13:11:25

I love the wedding captain idea.

DD3 accepted she couldn't marry us very quickly as I explained the point of a wedding was to make someone you loved so much you wanted to be family, part of your family. And since we were already family, there was no point in marrying us.

However she is totally preoccupied with marrying her friend from nursery. She has planned the dresses they will wear. She has planned her bridesmaids. She has planned the cake ('delicious chocolate and strawberry') and the music ('all the fun songs we like').

However she hasn't asked the other girl to marry her yet and when she did ask, asked in such a quiet voice the girl didn't hear and carried on playing with blocks. Poor DD was very discouraged and is trying to muster the fortitude to ask again. In a louder voice.

SenecaFalls Fri 01-Mar-19 13:15:59

Let her go MOB American style: floor length sparkly number trailing yards of chiffon and carrying a small bouquet.

weegiemum Fri 01-Mar-19 13:59:44

When she was 4, my dd1 (now19) got very angry at us because she couldn't go to our wedding (her friends parents were getting married).

She couldn't understand we'd got married 6 years before she was born!

kelper Fri 01-Mar-19 14:11:30

Aww, this is very cute (And the hobbit is just awesome too!)
DS always wanted to marry me, since daddy wouldn't! He's now 11 and I think this idea has worn off a little 😭
She definitely needs an enormous hat and a disapproving look ;)

Katiepoes Fri 01-Mar-19 14:28:21

She'll need some nice tan tights, do Falke come in small girl sizes? She also needs to learn to say 'of course in my day the MotB always did/chose/invited.....' and 'but we've known XYZ since you were a baaaaaby'.

She sounds fabulous btw!

Katebob22 Fri 01-Mar-19 14:37:33

I can’t see the Frodo photo #stampsfeet

Katebob22 Fri 01-Mar-19 14:38:36

Sorry, as you were. Just seen it blush

whohaa Fri 01-Mar-19 14:39:06

My 3 year old wants to marry me, so that's happening.

Yougotdis Fri 01-Mar-19 14:48:33

Yep dress her up full mother of the bride. I’ll make the outfit myself if you want. And she has to walk around the whole wedding date tutting and saying ‘well I thought she would have married her last boyfriend but she won’t listen to any of my suggestions’. There should also be a mob speech

drspouse Fri 01-Mar-19 15:34:53

Of course, if you can find a willing small boy, you can have endless fun with the "I don't want to be in the same room as him" mother of the bride and her ex/father of the bride.

LondonBelongsToMe Sat 02-Mar-19 09:31:39

@DoubleNegativePanda must come back, this site needs people like her more than ever. What a woman and what a hobbit.

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