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AIBU to tell husband that if he wants to have his mum to stay every weekend he should be there?

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icanonlyeverdomybest Thu 28-Feb-19 20:16:09

My husband invites his mum to come and stay most weekends, but then leaves me to entertain her and goes out himself. AIBU to tell him to either stop inviting her to stay or to only invite her if he is going to be present to entertain her?

FriarTuck Thu 28-Feb-19 20:18:42

Most weekends?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! shock

Redshoeblueshoe Thu 28-Feb-19 20:19:42

I'd go out first !

AfterSchoolWorry Thu 28-Feb-19 20:20:07


Have you been putting up with this without saying anything?


IDoN0tCare Thu 28-Feb-19 20:21:19

A lot of new posters on here tonight, with weird family dynamics.

theWarOnPeace Thu 28-Feb-19 20:21:43

What the hell is wrong with everyone at the moment? This is bonkers on every level. Why and why and why? Why does he want her over every weekend? Why does he go out on his own every weekend? Why have you put up with it up to this point? Bonkers I tell you.

sleepylittlebunnies Thu 28-Feb-19 20:21:56

It’s quite rude of him to invite her and then bugger off out. Rude to her and rude to you. He should only be inviting her when he is around, not so much to entertain her but to keep her company. Sounds like he’s relying on you to do that while being a dutiful son. What does she think about it. I think I’d be quite annoyed at my son.

WoollyMummoth Thu 28-Feb-19 20:22:09

Do you really need to ask this?
I predict every response will be along the lines of if he wants her then he should be there and it is totally unreasonable to have her EVERY weekend!!!

theWarOnPeace Thu 28-Feb-19 20:22:41

^^ Cross posted. I wondered if it was just me coming across all of these wierd families and pushovers.

Disfordarkchocolate Thu 28-Feb-19 20:22:52

Get up early and go out first. grin

missmouse101 Thu 28-Feb-19 20:23:00

YANBU! In any way! That is completely ridiculous and it needs to be stopped right now.

StripeyDeckchair Thu 28-Feb-19 20:23:21

Every weekend!
That's weird, that mean you get no free time together.

Him buggering off to do his on thing is downright rude, to you and his mum.
I'd leave the house before him and leave it to him to entertain her, what's he doing when he goes out anyway?

GregoryPeckingDuck Thu 28-Feb-19 20:25:08

Just go out.

EKGEMS Thu 28-Feb-19 20:33:14

My MIL EVERY weekend? Yeah that'll happen at half past never on that'll be the day!

FierceMother Thu 28-Feb-19 20:33:54


CookPassBabtridge Thu 28-Feb-19 20:34:04

Surely this is a joke...

eddielizzard Thu 28-Feb-19 20:34:31

What a cheek!

earlyrisingcat Thu 28-Feb-19 20:44:56

WTF? confused

Why are you not telling him off and DEMANDING he stays in.

He invites her and then fucks off? Whaaaa?

AnyFucker Thu 28-Feb-19 20:45:50

Do you have MUG stamped on your forehead ?

PippaParty Thu 28-Feb-19 20:46:57

My DIL mum is at is at her (and my DS's) house everyday, usually for at least 4 hours.

gamerchick Thu 28-Feb-19 20:47:04

You mean you've just been quietly sucking this up? hmm

NancyPickford Thu 28-Feb-19 20:51:39

So presumably he doesn't want his dear old mum (she may not be old, I know) not to be alone at the weekend, so he invites her to your house. But he doesn't actually think he has to entertain or host her, and that's your job somehow? Why don't you get out of the house before she arrives so he has to look after her?

BumbleBeee69 Thu 28-Feb-19 20:52:10

Tell HIM to go stay with HER ?!

MrsKoala Thu 28-Feb-19 20:52:21

Well. My Nan didn't come every weekend, but she came to stay about once every 6 weeks and my Dad still went out and left my Mum to entertain her. It was pretty normal for the men to go out and leave the women together and the wife to do the cooking. I doubt my Mum or Nan expected anything else. But it wouldn't be for me. I wouldn't mind an hour to pop to the gym or something but off out for hours is rude.

SpanielEars070 Thu 28-Feb-19 20:52:22

More fool you.

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