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Husband not making bottle according to instructions

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Reccy2018 Thu 28-Feb-19 16:48:03

I don't know if I'm being unreasonable. I have no doubt I'll be told if I am!

Have moved nearly 9 m/o to formula in preparation for me going back to work. Got a perfect prep second hand and powdered hipp organic formula. Back of box says 4 x 5oz bottles for her age - so far so good.

Except it specifically says to level off the scoop. I do this, as I always follow instructions. No individual thought here. If a recipe says 500ml of stock, I'm using 500ml of stock. Not 550ml, not 450ml. That's the rule. I'm sticking to it.

My husband DOES NOT level off the scoop, but neither is it heaped. He just kind of jigs it, thinks "good enough!" and away he goes.

I made a massive deal out of, asked him why he wouldn't use it, and he said because it's not needed. A big row ensued, now not talking and apparently I can go fuck myself.

He will be looking after the baby 2 days a week as I'm going back full time.

Is this a problem? The scoops, not the row.
In a way, I hope I'm being unreasonable. But it does very clearly say to level off the scoop!!

anxiousmotherof1 Thu 28-Feb-19 16:50:19

Its fine !

LeekMunchingSheepShagger Thu 28-Feb-19 16:52:17

I really don't think you need to worry about this for a 9 month old baby.

Wavingwhiledrowning Thu 28-Feb-19 16:54:09

That would irk me too. Its not like its hard to use the leveller thingy. But realistically... I doubt its a huge problem. Unless they were massively over or under it probably largely evens out.

MurryFinge Thu 28-Feb-19 16:54:49


Purpleartichoke Thu 28-Feb-19 16:55:50

Formula needs to be mixed precisely. Full stop.

Nicknacky Thu 28-Feb-19 16:56:39

Goodness me, this wasn’t worth a big row. You say yourself he shakes off the excess.

Go apologise for over reacting.

BusySnipingOnCallOfDuty Thu 28-Feb-19 16:56:46

Its meant to be scoop, level, use.

Because that particular routine makes the scoop right.

Its more important for younger infants, but the amount has to exact because of the levels of ingredients in each scoop

Reccy2018 Thu 28-Feb-19 16:57:04

Yes Murray, how did you guess? 😂

Soulsista14 Thu 28-Feb-19 16:58:15

Too much powder can constipate them. Not enough powder won’t give them the full amount of nutrients they need. The leveller is there for a reason. Your DH is being a dick.

Doghorsechicken Thu 28-Feb-19 16:58:28

It does need to be right to be honest. If there’s too much powder your baby could become constipated and that’s just unnecessary discomfort for the sake of a few seconds of levelling. The Hipp box even has a leveller built in so no excuses.

Felyne Thu 28-Feb-19 16:59:40

I thought you were going to say he only uses 3 scoops instead of 4 or something. For a newborn, I think it would be more a worry but not at 9 months.

anniehm Thu 28-Feb-19 16:59:51

It's fine, at 9 months I still breastfed but had follow on formula for if I was out - I came back to find dh feeding dd cows milk with nesquik because it tastes nicer! She lived.

happymummy12345 Thu 28-Feb-19 16:59:56

I wouldn't be happy with that at all. They are meant to be level

Soontobe60 Thu 28-Feb-19 17:00:04

At that age I wouldn't be bothered. Did you know exactly how much breast milk your baby drank at every feed? How rich or not it was? At 9 months, your baby will be having other foods which may not be quite so precisely measured out.
Give him a break, it's his baby too!

5BlueHydrangea Thu 28-Feb-19 17:00:33

If the concentrations are way out it can cause kidney problems. It's unlikely to be a big problem in a healthy baby if it's slightly over but it makes sense to get into the habit of doing it correctly.

pastabest Thu 28-Feb-19 17:01:03

I don't really think it matters at 9 months.

FWIW I'm still breastfeeding bottle refusing DC2 at nearly 9 months and going back to work soon. I'm satisfied that at 9 months with a good appetite for solids and tap water that even if she won't take a bottle then she's still not going to come to any harm if she doesn't get any milk for 8 hours.

In a few months (weeks!) time she eons even need the milk in theory anyway.

TwoRoundabouts Thu 28-Feb-19 17:02:36

You know even levelling it off you aren't being precise? And at 9 months old your baby is eating solids so not all their nutrition comes from milk. Not a big deal.

pastabest Thu 28-Feb-19 17:03:28

Is it bad I'm seriously considering anniehm's DHs nesquik idea to see if that will tempt DC2 onto a bottle grin

PazRaz10 Thu 28-Feb-19 17:04:28

I levelled it, but only because I got into a routine having used formula from a much younger age where I felt it was important to be accurate as it is easy to overfeed a younger baby with formula.
At 9 months though I wouldn't worry too much. I would worry if they were heaped, but tapped and levelled will be fine.

In fact most formula tins I used had a thing on the edge of the inside rim to level it off with, so the same effect as jiggling it probably!!

1tisILeClerc Thu 28-Feb-19 17:08:59

Unless your baby is properly 'calibrated', meaning at the size and weight that the feed instructions 'calculated' then you are being overly obsessive.
While there is a feeling of wanting to be 'right' about these things once a baby is more than a few months old 'about right' is fine.
When DC was born I was given a 'quota' for expressed milk, which was a bit of a struggle for a week. Change of ward sister who recalculated and informed that had been underfeeding by about 50%.
Que massive concern (at the time). DC seems fine 18 years on.

YourSarcasmIsDripping Thu 28-Feb-19 17:17:38

I always shook, DD is fine. She also never ate what it said on the box and weaned herself off it at 11 months. She's still alive and doing well.
Are there any other reasons why you don't trust him with the bay on his own? Is this a single blown out of proportion issue(in my eyes) or just the last straw?

CottonSock Thu 28-Feb-19 17:21:11

I think you are being a bit picky

Reccy2018 Thu 28-Feb-19 17:24:26

I do trust him with the baby? I'm not sure I was going to trust him making up the bottles if it was imperative they were EXACTLY right. I would pre measure or just get him to use ready made. Seems OK though. Bit of a leap to say I don't trust him with her.

Dvg Thu 28-Feb-19 17:28:39

I dont level my scoops either, when i asked the health visitor is it okay when i realized that it might cause issues she said yes they are only guidelines and as long as it isn't being heaped and its just a scoop then it really doesn't matter.

I do understand its a worry as i worried at first when i realized but its honestly find, Formula used to not even include the scoops and it was just done via spoonfuls.

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