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AIBU?

OLD What would you make of this dude?

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Kneehigim · 28/02/2019 14:14

About a month ago, I started chatting to a guy online. He seemed really sweet, attentive, we spoke on the phone a few times etc.
About 3 weeks ago he was in a car crash and suffered concussion.

Since then, he messages every day (I've tried telling him to bugger off, ignoring him for days etc. yet still he messages every fucking morning. I've tried ringing, nope, won't answer the phone).

The messages are like Memes with 'Thinking of you always', 'Missing you', 'A good morning is saying that I think about you first thing', that sort of shit.
Whenever I ask him a question he responds with this same shit! He doesn't converse at all.
Now I know he had a knock on the head, but in one response very early on after the crash, he said that I got 'weird' because he wouldn't answer the phone. We had been on the phone and he said he'd call me back in 5, then I didn't hear from him for 2 days apart from a voice message saying he had been in a crash.
I don't want to block him, I probably should, but I'm more curious! What the fuck is his game?
Every fucking day I get these teddy bear, love heart, rainbow pictures with lovey dovey messages, then nada!

I know you're going to say block him lol, but I'm sort of curious!

I know I know I know, block, block, block. Short of blocking him (I've told him to F off), there's nothing I can do.

But what the hell is he playing at? It makes no sense whatsoever!

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BejamNostalgia · 28/02/2019 14:17

I would guess that he’s accidentally activated some sort of subscription meme thing and it’s automatically sending them out.

BejamNostalgia · 28/02/2019 14:17

Is it about the same time every day?

Puddingmama2017 · 28/02/2019 14:18

I had one guy fake his death and received a message from his ‘parents’ telling me.

OLD can be strange.

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 28/02/2019 14:19

Imo he is either on meds /drugs and used a car crash to excuse his batshit behaviour.
Block and be thankful for the lucky escape.

Ragwort · 28/02/2019 14:19

Do you honestly know if he was in a car crash, perhaps he is pretending so that he can act in this odd way and have your attention .... which is clearly working.

You know the answer, why are you even wasting time and energy on Mumsnet writing about him.

PinkHeart5914 · 28/02/2019 14:21

There are some weird fuckers online dating.

Seriously just block him, it’s the only way. People like him NEVER take the hint....

Kneehigim · 28/02/2019 14:23

Because his behaviour makes no sense. I have no idea whether he was in a crash or not. He could live in Timbuktu for all I know. No, the messages generally arrive in the first half of the day, some are written, some are these meme things.
He was lovely until this apparent crash, so I'm reluctant to just block. Plus, they're cute lol.
I just can't make sense of it at all.

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Kneehigim · 28/02/2019 14:27

I'll be sad to block him, but I guess I have to. Oh well. I'll miss my daily 'love' message!

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werideatdawn · 28/02/2019 14:29

Have you actually met him..?

Kneehigim · 28/02/2019 14:32

Nope, never met him. He's English though. We've spoken on the phone a few times (just once since the crash where he explained what had happened). It's all very odd.

His message this morning was 'Missing you xxxxxx'. I replied 'I'm sorry to hear that' lol.

I really don't know what to do with him.

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CatstorTroy · 28/02/2019 16:17

Maybe hes moved on to someone else but is trying to keep you interested incase it falls through? Other than that...hes really bad a flirting?

Birdsgottafly · 28/02/2019 16:23

I've known lots of Men who invent accidents for attention.

Perhaps he's living with someone and she's been around more often, or he's starting dating someone amd wants to keep you dangling.

He's sending stuff that could be done in a toilet and you may not be the only one getting them.

Birdsgottafly · 28/02/2019 16:26

Judge men by their actions.

If he was missing you, he'd be phoning you and wanting to meet up.

He's seeing someone.

Shamoogren · 28/02/2019 16:26

Good lord. There's nothing interesting about an unavailable weirdo messaging you! Stop letting this waste of space block your relationship space.

BlueJava · 28/02/2019 16:27

I reckons he's just stringing you along with a load of others. Much easier to send all these silly messages and pics and memes but not have an actual conversation. If he just puts pics/memes your way rather than telling you anything it's easier to have the facade that he likes you and is interested - in reality he isn't actually telling you anything (so can't be caught out lying).

HowlsMovingBungalow · 28/02/2019 16:31

Block him and move on. You aren't getting anything from him just pointless meme bullshit, great if you are 15!

The ' I had an accident ' on OLD is a common lie.

Ragwort · 28/02/2019 16:34

You need to get a hobby, how old are you? You sound like a love sick teenager, why are you giving someone whom you have never even met so much head space? I am so glad my dating days involved meeting real people in real places.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 28/02/2019 16:41

Me too @Ragwort

Sadly these days OLD does seem to mean just constant messaging with no intention of 'dating'. Lots of folk out there like the attention 24/7 via their phone.

mamato3lads · 28/02/2019 16:42

"Kind of cute lol"

Erm....I wouldn't find this cute I'd find it very fucking weird and he'd freak me out. You sound like you kind of enjoy it so he's probably getting those vibes too. Block him move on with life

HowlsMovingBungalow · 28/02/2019 16:46

Why did you mention him being English?

CruCru · 28/02/2019 16:53

Are you sure that he isn’t a scam artist? Trying to convince you of his true love then is going to need funds for treatment from his “accident”.

SmashedMug · 28/02/2019 16:56

I reckons he's just stringing you along with a load of others. Much easier to send all these silly messages and pics and memes but not have an actual conversation.

I agree with this. Send the same pic to all the ladies and keep them interested.

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JacquesHammer · 28/02/2019 16:59

His message this morning was 'Missing you xxxxxx'. I replied 'I'm sorry to hear that' lol

So you want rid of him, but are also deliberately sending “amusing” responses.

I really don't know what to do with him

Block him. You don’t want to date him, why on EARTH waste headspace on him

SpamChaudFroid · 28/02/2019 17:19

I once had a message from someone thanking me for the great and detailed sex we'd had the night before. I messaged back to say he must have sent me the text by mistake, and he replied, "No I haven't Spam". Absolutely insistent and wouldn't stop sending me pervy explicit messages for months. (This was before smart phones, so no option to block).

In my experience OP the most likely explanation is that the bloke's being a twat.

DorothyZbornak · 28/02/2019 17:21

Oh God, he sounds like a complete nightmare. Block him.

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