My dd (13) went to a birthday party on Saturday night, the party involved drinking vodka and smoking. The mother provided alcohol (homemade cider apparently) and what was supposed to be a girly sleepover morphed into a mixed sleepover.
I am now feeling incredibly anxious about the next party in a few weeks time, it looks like the same children are invited. I have spoken to the mother about drinking etc, and she said she may give the dc something watered down, but can't really guarantee the dc won't bring their own vodka etc with them. Although I understand she can't check every bag or supervise every waking moment, I don't feel very confident that the same won't happen again. I think it is very likely to be the same or worse.
DD now doesn't want to go to any more parties full stop, she said she feels really stressed and under pressure to drink and smoke, but all of her friends have been invited, she will be the only one that won't be there.
I had no idea that this would start so soon. I am really surprised and shocked. I thought it would be a year or two before we had to worry about this.
I am worried she will be isolated if she doesn't go, and but I am much more worried about the parties and under age drinking, and all the rest.
I wasn't exactly Theresa May when I was growing up, but 13 feels very early to be doing this.
MN I need some words of wisdom.
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Drinking at 13
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Springwalk · 28/02/2019 10:23
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