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To not bathe my kids before bed?

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Chocwocdoodah Wed 27-Feb-19 23:43:40

I shower my DCs in the morning as it’s quick and means they’re clean for the day. But a friend pointed out its better to give kids a bath at bedtime otherwise they’re getting in bed with all the grime of the day still on them.

What do you do - morning or bedtime?

Glitterblue Wed 27-Feb-19 23:45:36

We do bedtime but it's personal preference I guess, your way they don't have the grime from the day before or any sweat from the night! We wouldn't have time in the morning with the long hair etc

CarrieBlu Wed 27-Feb-19 23:46:53

Whilst they’re young I think they definitely need a bath before bedtime. My toddler was covered in mud, sand, paint and chocolate by 6pm tonight - there was no way she was getting into bed like that!

sunshineandshowers21 Wed 27-Feb-19 23:47:38

at night. i bath my four year old and the baby and then my eldest has a shower. it’s mayhem in the mornings in our house without needing showers and baths on top of it. i also find that a bath an hour or so before bed winds my little ones down and they sleep so much better.

radishingravish Wed 27-Feb-19 23:48:37

Depends on their age I think. And if they have long/short hair.

Ribbonsonabox Wed 27-Feb-19 23:49:17

Morning... I dont see the point of washing that much at night (face and hands and teeth etc we obv do) unless really muddy or sweaty or something... because they'll just be sweaty from the night in the morning again... better to be fresh for the day ahead than fresh for bed

babycatcher411 Wed 27-Feb-19 23:49:23

I used to just bath my son as it felt necessary. Usually this was the evening as normally we’d have more time then, but it wasn’t anything to do with going to bed clean, and certainly didn’t happen every night.
Unless they’re actually dirty from whatever they’ve done in the day (ie rolled in mud, covered in food etc), kids don’t need to wash in the same way as adults as they don’t sweat like we do.

Seth Wed 27-Feb-19 23:51:36

How old are your DCs op? I wouldn't stress about it really. If they obviously need a good scrub from nursery or school with paint / mud etc then do it as needed. If you are talking about everyday bathing / showering just for the sake of it then I really wouldn't bother. Children don't produce sweat as adults do and a bath or shower daily probably isn't good or necessary for their skin.. the environment or a lot else (in my opinion. I appreciate that others may not agree)

TheClaws Wed 27-Feb-19 23:54:47

Kids get dirty during the day, as they’re kids - they play outside, get stuff of all sorts all over them, interact with animals and other people, fall over, etc. etc. Plus, a warm bath helps settle them down for bed. It’s a good routine to have.

Chocwocdoodah Wed 27-Feb-19 23:55:10

They’re 8 and 5.
Yes, I’m wondering if bath at BT might be easier than rushing around in the morning. So all you who do baths at night, do you just give them a quick face/hands wash in the morning or..?

Chocwocdoodah Wed 27-Feb-19 23:56:41

I do like to shower or bath them daily though especially as the youngest in particular is not always that thorough with, er, wiping himself after using the looshock

123drink Wed 27-Feb-19 23:57:47

Evening. Far easier. Couldn't give a fuck what anyone else says.

Makes them sleep better!

RaffertyFair Thu 28-Feb-19 00:00:00

Given your last update OP I would definitely bathe them before bed!

Pinkbells Thu 28-Feb-19 00:16:18

We always used to do a bath every night before bed, then when they got to about 8 and 6 they started saying they didn't want to share a bath, so we suggested alternating bath and shower each night to save the time that it was taking to run two baths. Now the 11 year old has a shower in the mornings and the 8 year old has a shower at night. Once in a while they choose a bath but not very often these days.

Pinkbells Thu 28-Feb-19 00:19:58

And for prepubescent kids who haven't had a particularly active day, and with the sheets being changed a couple of times a week I don't think it would be dirty to have a shower in the morning rather than the evening?

RaffertyFair Thu 28-Feb-19 00:25:11

with the sheets being changed a couple of times a week shock

JasperKarat Thu 28-Feb-19 00:27:32

Both, morning shower, bath before bed

NunoGoncalves Thu 28-Feb-19 00:28:20

because they'll just be sweaty from the night in the morning again

Do your kids really sweat that much at night? I live in a tropical climate and my kids very rarely sweat at night.

NunoGoncalves Thu 28-Feb-19 00:29:58

We do a bath before bed. Always have done as part of the bedtime routine. They don't wash in the morning because they don't sweat or get dirty overnight!

Quintella Thu 28-Feb-19 00:29:58

A morning shower and an evening bath?

Kids sweating in the night?

Sheets changed twice weekly?

Bloody hell.

IncrediblySadToo Thu 28-Feb-19 00:36:14

You could point out she’s sending hers off to school all clammy from the litres of fluid they sweat out at night while sleeping 🤣...🤷🏻‍♀️ As long as they’re bathed/showered regularly it really doesn’t matter.

The little ones have baths at night, every night, as they get hot, muddy, mucky and it’s a nice pre bed routine. Often a quick shower in the morning too as I can’t abide a wet nappy smell and I have a very sensitive nose.

The self sufficient middle ones can do either as long as they shower once a day and maintain a clean, fresh smell/look. So going in if they’ve got all hit & sweaty or dirty irrespective of when they last showered

The older ones need crow bars to get them out of the shower.

peskypooches Thu 28-Feb-19 01:00:59

I must admit I have never bathed my two as much as a lot of people - even as babies maybe only twice a week, and they probably shower about the same now. I've warned them that when puberty hits they'll start to smell and they'll have to change their ways, but otherwise I really don't think it matters with younger children. Obviously if they've been doing something really mucky they need a wash before bed (we've never done them in the morning, although that's when I shower) but otherwise a scrub of the fingernails usually makes them look vaguely presentable....grin

Purpleartichoke Thu 28-Feb-19 01:20:40

We never bathed dd at night u less the situation was dire. She hated baths so much it would make getting her to sleep impossible. Even now that she is older, we try not to have her shower right before bed. That is partly so she doesn’t have soaking wet hair, but also just it is not conducive to rest for her.

femfemlicious Thu 28-Feb-19 01:30:03

@RaffertyFair exactly my reaction grin

SkinnyPete Thu 28-Feb-19 01:37:47

Bath 3 nights a week here (DD8). Maybe 4 max.

Lweji Thu 28-Feb-19 01:41:51

It depends on the child.
DS was never one to get dirty, but he used to feel cold when he was sleepy and then sweat a lot as soon as he fell asleep. As if he had a fever and then got it down. It happened at night and for naps sometimes.
It was more convenient to give him a shower before bed but he probably needed one more in the morning.

RainbowMum11 Thu 28-Feb-19 02:52:37

Once/week for DD, as well as after swimming.
She always had v sensitive skin so bathing every day never was good for her skin.
Any, when younger, we only had a bath/shower a couple of times a week which was ok, so we follow the same.

Monty27 Thu 28-Feb-19 03:10:34

It was always night time baths here.
It keeps jammies and bedding fresher. Fresh underwear every day and if clothes if necessary clean clothes too.

Bellasorellaa Thu 28-Feb-19 03:19:36

Your preference I understand your friends as I only bath at night but point is they get washed

Oakenbeach Thu 28-Feb-19 06:44:08

Mine didn’t bathe/shower every day at that age, but every 2/3 days. No need unless sweaty or dirty. Some of us are obsessed with hygiene to the point of unhealthiess.

Ps i shower every day.

londonrach Thu 28-Feb-19 06:47:40

Never before bed as she be up hours. Has a morning bath twice or three times a week. I bathing her daily but her skin was said why you bathing her daily. Childfarm and 2-3 baths a week and shes alot better. I must be the only person whos child when bathed wakes up and gets alot of energy!!

poglets Thu 28-Feb-19 08:04:40

Shower every morning. And a couple of baths a week in the evening. Clean bedding once a week.

VelvetPineapple Thu 28-Feb-19 08:10:34

If we need to rush out really early in the morning we both (adult and child) get washed the night before. If we’re not in a rush we’ll shower in the morning. If the child is filthy then a bath or shower can be at any time of day or night. A child doesn’t need washing every day though - if they’re not dirty then imo every other day is sufficient.

CouldntThink Thu 28-Feb-19 08:13:17

Baths in the evening. Usually every other night unless they need it more often, which they generally do. Wouldn’t have time for a morning bath.

AntiHop Thu 28-Feb-19 08:15:41

I don't bathe my 4 year old every night. Usually every 3rd day. If she needs one sooner, obviously I do it.

Notso Thu 28-Feb-19 08:21:12

When they were grubby toddlers I bathed them most nights. Now older kids in their teens shower daily (In 18 year olds case seemingly hourly hmm)
8 and 6 year olds get a shower Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings and then on Saturday morning, obviously more if it's really hot or they're filthy etc. 6 year old is still in pull ups at night and gets night sweats so I sometimes hose him down super quickly in the mornings as well.

Vulpine Thu 28-Feb-19 08:21:30

'The grime of the day'? They're not working down a coal mine

StopMakingAFoolOutofMe Thu 28-Feb-19 08:22:30

Now he's older, morning. He sweats a lot during the night and his hair won't do anything if he's slept in it grin

cushioncovers Thu 28-Feb-19 08:26:40

Before my dc hit puberty they bathed at night. No need for deodorant etc
Then after puberty hit and they started sweating and getting spots etc they wanted to shower in the morning so that they were fresh for school.
They are young adults now and shower once a day whenever they want to.

GreatDuckCookery6211 Thu 28-Feb-19 08:27:46

Bath or shower before bed at that age.

Parker231 Thu 28-Feb-19 08:34:49

Mine had showers before bed. Much quicker and saved loads of time when they had after school clubs, activities, homework to fit in. We started ours on showers with us from six months old.

Camomila Thu 28-Feb-19 08:35:05

DS is nearly 3 and usually has a shower in the mornings. I prefer it because a bath before bed just excites him and also because he doesn't mind getting his head wet in the shower. By bedtime he just wants to go to bed, not have a bath.

In summer its a bit different with suncream/wearing shorts etc but ATM I just wash his hands/face/teeth and the rest of him is clean under his clothes.

StevieHuckle Thu 28-Feb-19 08:37:20

Bath 3 nights a week here (DD8). Maybe 4 max.

Same, unless particularly dirty it not like they sweat and smell like adults do. As long as they're clean. Ive always been cautious of them being over-clean.

Seline Thu 28-Feb-19 08:38:14

I bathe my kids as required. I don't have set bath days or times etc. Some weeks he needs more bathing than others. My younger two get bathed on average every other day but sometimes more regularly if they've had bad reflux.

OneStepSideways Thu 28-Feb-19 10:11:25

Morning baths/showers here! I don't see the point of bathing at night, everyone sweats and sheds dead skin cells during the 8 or so hours you're asleep! Kids also tend to dribble, get snot on the pillow and then spill breakfast on themselves.

I always shower in the morning or I feel sticky and don't smell as fresh. And it wakes me up for the day.

If you shower at night instead, do you put deodorant on at night or in the morning or both? I've always wondered that.

My 4 year old has clean pjs every evening and clean bedding twice a week.

Crustaceans Thu 28-Feb-19 10:14:56

Morning showers here. I used to do bedtime baths as babies but switched to morning showers when they were at school as it was easier.

Actually DS2 never washes at home these days. He swims 5 times a week and showers after that (at the pool --mostly just chatting to his friends for ages--). He’s not old enough to need any more washing than that.

Chocwocdoodah Thu 28-Feb-19 23:43:35

Rafferty - does sound a bit grim when I put it like that!!

By “grime of the day” I mean the sometimes dirty faces, fingernails and general sweatiness from running around at school.

So if you bathe/shower your kids at night, do they have any kind of wash in the morning - i.e. face and hands - or nothing?

Auntiepatricia Thu 28-Feb-19 23:54:30

Mine usually get bathed twice a week. Bedsheets every few weeks. Fresh clothes most days. None of them smell (4 under 7). I don’t ever do baths before bed, can’t think of a worse time.

NunoGoncalves Thu 28-Feb-19 23:54:35

Nothing. Just brush teeth. Face doesn't get dirty overnight and they wash their hands after going to the toilet which they usually do first thing anyway!

Whatsnewpussyhat Fri 01-Mar-19 00:09:23

My kids have never had a bath before bed and go to bed just fine without. They have also never had a bath daily. There is just no need as babies and by the time we are home from work/fed, giving them a bath would make bedtime too late.

I don't shower or bathe before bed either.
Always in the morning.

naysayer Fri 01-Mar-19 00:10:46

I'm with peskypooches and skinnypete and thank god you spoke, was beginning to think DD10 was the only child to have only 2-4 baths a week. And it has to be baths, we have no shower. And it's a complete pain as her hair is as thick as an Afghan goat's, and waist length. And with no shower, a morning bath is out of the question. Unless they are rolling around in mud every day is it really necessary to waste water that much? Surely teaching them to top and tail with a cloth is enough.

happymummy12345 Fri 01-Mar-19 00:31:27

Usually evening, but I have done mornings occasionally.

stayathomer Fri 01-Mar-19 00:38:37

We do showers 2 or 3 times a week ( or obviously as needed!). I've always wondered if it was just a mn thing to bath nightly over baby/ toddler age, I've asked and most people I know do three times a week?

Vehivle Fri 01-Mar-19 01:38:13

We bath our 2 year old at night. Maybe 2-3 a week. Certainly not everyday. We do nights as it helps him to wind down and it's a good time waster in that weird evening time between dinner and bedtime. Limits him getting bored and then cranky by having him play in the bath for a bit before the bed time routine.

NC4Now Fri 01-Mar-19 01:46:45

No, if they have a bath at night just teeth in the morning and wash hands after the loo. They are getting older now, so rethink needed but that was the child routine.

zizza Sat 02-Mar-19 07:24:34

Those who want to bath/shower in the morning.... Why so sweaty overnight? Do you have the heating on? I shower (myself) in the morning if I need to wash my hair, or before bed if no hair wash needed for the next day (or I've been to the gym).

TickettyBoo Sat 02-Mar-19 08:03:52

"My 4 year old has clean pjs every evening and clean bedding twice a week"

Allergy to dirt/oxygen?? I get that it's each to their own but seriously!

rejected2012 Sat 02-Mar-19 08:41:32

I shower mine every morning and night and change his sheets every week

Nothinglefttochoose Sat 02-Mar-19 08:47:40

Don’t have a bath so kids shower every second day

bluechameleon Sat 02-Mar-19 09:19:22

Mine get baths twice a week, usually during the afternoon. When DS1 had bad eczema the dermatologist advised us not to bathe him to often and we've just stuck with the routine now he has largely grown out of the eczema.

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