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Leaving kids at 5am alone

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R2G Tue 26-Feb-19 08:44:22

Guys my sister is running in a group at 5am. Has many other opportunities to exercise as ex has kids three times a week. Kids are 12 and 11. They are left alone for an hour.
In the past she had issues with a different ex regarding stalking which he was convicted in court.
Do you think this is ok at this time or no?

HoneysuckIejasmine Tue 26-Feb-19 08:45:45

Depends on the kids, doesn't it. Sensible, mature, and at that time most definitely asleep? Meh.

CandyPuff Tue 26-Feb-19 08:46:09

I think that's fine at that age

Seeline Tue 26-Feb-19 08:46:16

I think it's fine as long as the kids know she is going, so don't wake up worried about where she is.
Presumably she is back in time to get them up and ready for school. Seems like an ideal time actually!

bridgetreilly Tue 26-Feb-19 08:47:01

I can't see the problem.

Basecamp65 Tue 26-Feb-19 08:47:09

Yes I think it is fine - depending on the kids.

bridgetreilly Tue 26-Feb-19 08:47:27

Also, I don't see what's relevant about the stalker-ex?

TheHodgeoftheHedge Tue 26-Feb-19 08:48:11

At that age I don’t think there’s a problem as long as they know and can get hold of her if need be.

Luckingfovely Tue 26-Feb-19 08:50:48

It's fine.

katykins85 Tue 26-Feb-19 08:51:43

Its absolutely fine confused

ErictheGuineaPig Tue 26-Feb-19 08:53:13

Sounds fine as long as they are happy to be left. In fact I have debated doing the same myself but I don't think my eldest would like it as its still dark then.

Tvci5 Tue 26-Feb-19 08:54:31

If the 12 yr old is getting himself to high school and back I would’ve thought it was fine.

arethereanyleftatall Tue 26-Feb-19 08:54:33

That's fine. They're presumably asleep then?

expatinspain Tue 26-Feb-19 08:55:56

At that age kids are going to school alone, some have keys to come home alone for a few hours before their parents get in from work. They also could be spending portions of the holidays alone as I don't hear of kids going to childminders at that age. It's fine.

Passing4Human Tue 26-Feb-19 09:02:09

What is the relevance of the ex and the stalking thing?

Birdsgottafly Tue 26-Feb-19 09:06:36

Are you happy to be a point of contact for the children, if she isn't back at a certain time?

That's the only issue, with the stalker ex, that someone would know to report if she went 'missing' etc.

Springwalk Tue 26-Feb-19 09:07:55

If he is still stalking obv that may be a problem otherwise totally fine re ages.

Springwalk Tue 26-Feb-19 09:09:36

The stalker problem is an issue if he targets her kids or something happens to her whilst she is out, and they are at home unsure what to do. I don’t think either of these scenarios are likely to happen.

BadBear Tue 26-Feb-19 09:10:03

Can't see an issue with it. That's a great age to start teaching them how to be more independent so an hour alone at 5am won't hurt them.

GahWhatever Tue 26-Feb-19 09:10:24

Leaving an 11 and 12 year old alone for an hour is fine.

Pinkbells Tue 26-Feb-19 09:10:57

With a stalker, no. With the ages and the timing if there were no problems otherwise then I would if I took mobile phone with me and was then back in plenty of time to give them breakfast and a bit of quality time before school.

frenchonion Tue 26-Feb-19 09:11:48

Totally fine.

gamerchick Tue 26-Feb-19 09:12:12

It's fine at that age.

You could always offer yourself to pop over and sit by yourself for an hour if it bothers you.

Dvg Tue 26-Feb-19 09:12:50

Yeah 12 and 11 is fine, kids that age walk to school alone or go to the park alone etc so why not stay at home alone for an hour which is even safer?

legolimb Tue 26-Feb-19 09:15:53

Of course it's fine.

If an 11 and 12 yo can't be left for one hour then there is a problem.

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