I don’t know how to manage his temper anymore - the dog is terrified of him, hell im terrified of him.
He’s just called me a cunt and various other things whilst battering me with a cushion. On top of this sort of behaviour he blames me for everything that is wrong in his life. I wouldn’t want to be in his position and I’m trying to sort it but the LA just drag their heels (he’s effectively out of school as they can’t meet his needs.
I phoned our SW and said I can’t live like this anymore - I’m in fear for my safety and I’m in fear of being accused of something as he throws accusations around (‘You fucking made me go to special school - you just wanted to ruin my life’).
SW iscoming out tomorrow to discuss what the plan is re our case - she hinted that it might close.
As for DS - he’s upstairs calming down. I’m switching off internet and stopping all pocket money.
Sorry i’ve Been frantically emailing school and making tea (because regardless of what he thinks I do care if he eats).
I have asked school to come to the meeting tomorrow. There is a strong possibility that they may well close - they tried to a month ago and school and I challenged it. Social care are saying the issue is education but I have argued robustly that the outcome is a violent young man in my home and the reason is irrelevant though of course we are working to get him a new school.
Have you got any other children at home? Can you force SS to take cognisance of their safety if so? And when he’s violent it is worth considering the police. Not nice but it is a consequence of violence in our society.
I hope you have RL support, it sounds awful. No idea how you can force SS to help but I hope you can get advice on how to do so. Is boarding school for SN an option?
No other children - just a dog that hides when he starts.
We’ve had the police out before when he’s been violent - they reported it to the social worker who did nothing. I am meeting his needs so there are no safeguarding concerns!! My safety is not even considered in all this even though he’s a foot taller than me and stronger.
He’s back to ‘normal’ and is expecting me to have forgotten but I can’t
It's shit but to get any support from SS, things really have to escalate and be evidenced. In other words, you have to call the police EVERY time he is aggressive, violent and abusive and make it clear that you are scared for your safety. Is the father not involved?
You have all been really great - son was calm the rest of the day and behaved as if nothing has happened but I feel really shaken and out of sorts.
School can’t support at the meeting tomorrow so I have put my big girl pants on though it might be a case of keeping my powder dry then making a formal complaint. I have a Carers Assessment that says I can only continue my role if I get support urgently.