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To think a baby in hospital is an exception to the rules

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OnlyFoolsnMothers Mon 25-Feb-19 15:34:24

Thursday night my DD 18months had a seizure, no idea what was happening at the time. It was horrific, fortunately she is ok now (being referred for tests), but we were kept in hospital overnight and much of Friday whilst they ran tests.
Work have informed me I need take this as annual leave. Would your work follow the same line?

londonrach Wed 27-Feb-19 21:24:57

Dh...unpaid or holiday. Me...paid compassionate leave

Muddysnowdrop Wed 27-Feb-19 21:05:42

Well there’s lots of other places the employer could draw the line, aren’t there - yours only gives compassionate or unpaid leave, mine gives compassionate leave, emergency care of dependents leave for 5 days a year, and then unpaid leave. Teachers so there’s no annual leave to take.

EggysMom Wed 27-Feb-19 19:15:37

If you give compassionate leave for the child having a seizure and going into hospital for observations, do you then give compassionate leave again when they are told to "see how it goes" but the child has another seizure/admittance two months later; and then more compassionate leave when the child has to go for an operation ..... In the meantime a grandparent dies, so compassionate leave is needed for the funeral, but it's 400 miles away so you have to give two days to allow for travel .....

Where do you draw the line?

That's why my employer gives compassionate leave for bereavement; but expects you to manage the other absences using either annual leave or unpaid special leave.

clairemcnam Wed 27-Feb-19 19:09:20

Plenty of parents have taken time off sick when their child is ill as they have had no choice.

ShowMeTheKittens Wed 27-Feb-19 12:43:37

well I could never be a boss. I could never be as draconian.

natalia402 Wed 27-Feb-19 12:02:58

When I had time off when DD was rushed into hospital, I was told unpaid or annual leave, this was for a large private company. With my new, smaller family based company I had a day off when DF was taken into hospital with chest pains, they have paid me.
Just depends on the company/your contract.

BlueWonder Wed 27-Feb-19 11:38:43

I am in the public sector. If a dependent child is ill, you get the first day of illness as paid leave but not any subsequent days...they have to come from annual leave or be taken unpaid. Strictly speaking the start of illness and leave taken should be on the same day, otherwise they can refuse to grant it. Maybe that is how the guidance has been interpreted here.

gamerwidow Wed 27-Feb-19 09:32:56

Don’t say you are off sick if you are looking after dependents that’s a quick way to get yourself into a disciplinary.
Sick leave is only for when you are sick.
You could possibly say the stress has made you too unwell to find into work at a push but you might find that challenged without a doctors note to support.

meorhim20 Wed 27-Feb-19 08:53:51

Most companies allow for sick leave.

you cannot take sick leave if your child is ill. I never worked in a place where this was allowed and I work in the public sector, small companies and blue chip.

StarlightIntheNight Wed 27-Feb-19 08:48:41

Most companies allow for sick leave.....I would then say that I am off sick. You are entitled to get paid sick leave I assume?

VerbenaGirl Wed 27-Feb-19 08:14:05

When my baby daughter was in hospital both my employer (public sector) and my husband's employer (private sector) gave us paid compassionate leave for the initial unexpected time - then were flexible with us taking annual leave and making the time up for subsequent appointments. We are very lucky, but we do make sure we give back when our employers need something a bit more from us - it's a good balance.

Wholovesorangesoda Wed 27-Feb-19 07:36:14

A stay in hospital overnight for a child I'd definitely get compassionate leave. I work in a bank, although not a high street one

ChasedByBees Tue 26-Feb-19 23:36:54

I hope things are going OK for you OP.

I would be disappointed at your companies stance and if I were you, the goodwill of checking emails on holiday (which is actually illegal) would completely end. They can’t have things both ways.

Tistheseason17 Tue 26-Feb-19 22:52:17

Unpaid dependents leave or annual leave if you want to be paid.

Compassionate leave is for bereavements, funerals. Sorry, prob not what you want to hear.

Dextrodependant Tue 26-Feb-19 22:28:07

When my DS was diagnosed with a chronic illness via a visit to the HDU I was allowed a week off fully paid, then worked from home a bit and then ended up being signed off by the doctor for 3 weeks with the stress of trying to juggle it all.

My employer was amazing throughout. Never questioned the week I was off at all.

Alis0902 Tue 26-Feb-19 22:22:35

They cannot make you take a holiday for this time off. You are entitled to time off for dependants however they don’t have to pay you for that day off.

angelfacecuti75 Tue 26-Feb-19 22:16:28

Yes work does usually make me take it as leave that way its paid x

BowStreetStunner Tue 26-Feb-19 21:34:58

I know it is not that easy but I would consider not working there, have you looked at your companies policy on emergency leave they will have one?

BowStreetStunner Tue 26-Feb-19 21:32:22

I am shocked they would suggest you would have to take this as annual leave I am a teacher and would be given compassionate leave no questions asked and paid my father was sick he is elderly I to travel to see him was given two days paid and they were very understanding.

ouchiewow Tue 26-Feb-19 21:11:21

Stint in hospital I meant

ouchiewow Tue 26-Feb-19 21:03:02

I just had a ten day stint with my baby. He's better now, but yes it was ten of my 25 days holiday!

pinkstripeycat Tue 26-Feb-19 21:00:05

My work are pretty family orientated. It’s a large company owned by one man. In an incident such as this senior management go out of their way to make sure they make life as easy as possible for the staff member with full pay

NewAndImprovedNorks Tue 26-Feb-19 20:51:14

We employ MANY people...this would not even be logged as sickness, annual leave or anything. Real life is more important. Employee loyalty is priceless.

adriennewillfly Tue 26-Feb-19 20:47:41

I would be looking for another job if I was treated like that.

DungballInADress Tue 26-Feb-19 20:46:03

P.S that said, I wouldn't be discussing that with an employee until they were back at work and I knew that their DC was OK. I would NOT be discussing it before then, nobody needs that stress. Hope your DS is OK OP.

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