Just want a bit of a rant really.
I have a just turned 3yo ds who we strongly suspect is autistic. He is very tall for his age and, particularly now that he looks less babyish, people assume that he is at least a year older than he is.
I'm also a young mum and I feel that because of these two factors (but mostly because he looks older than he is) he gets judged much more harshly for his behaviour than other kids his age.
I took him to a cafe in town today as a treat as he'd been brilliantly behaved while we were shopping. He was mostly pretty well behaved although he did start crying when he got cream on his finger and then he wanted to drink the last of his tea with a teaspoon.
The crying I dealt with very quickly and he was quite happy once his hands had been wiped but let him drink the tea with a teaspoon as he wasn't making a mess or disturbing anyone.
As we were paying on the way out the woman serving me made a comment about how badly behaved he'd been and I felt about ready to start sobbing as I'd just been feeling so proud of him for being well behaved all day.
On the other hand their was another little boy who looked about 3yo as well who spent most of the time running around the tables and the staff were just laughing and smiling at him and telling his family not to worry about it.
I'm just so frustrated that people outside my family don't understand how hard he's trying to be well behaved and I'm so scared he's going to be labelled as the naughty boy once he's started school.
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To be at my wits end with people judging 3yo ds?
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CailleachBheurh · 24/02/2019 22:07
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