Our first baby is due in a matter of days and DP has just been on the phone chatting to his mum, gets off the call and says "oh mum and "Jane" (changed the name) are coming up the first weekend the baby is here for a visit.
I have no fucking idea who Jane is, which I said to DP (in a nicer way!!) it transpires she's an old friend of his mums, who wants to come for the weekend with with her. They live a good few hours drive away and luckily we don't have the room to have people stay here so they've decided (without talking to us first) that they'll get a hotel.
Am I being really pregnant and unreasonable and hormonal to think that actually, if I have the baby on Thursday or Friday, the first weekend, the baby will be a day or two old, and I'm not sure yet how much I'll feel upto a random friend of MIL's coming to see us, and also, would MIL not prefer to meet her first grandchild without her mate hanging about?
I was imagining being in bed/on the sofa, learning to breastfeed and having close family and friends visit.
When I said this to DP, he was really upset and doesn't seem to think this time is going to be about him supporting me and the baby and said that there are people he wants to meet the baby too.
I have no problem with Jane coming the next time MIL visits, but really? The first time she meets the baby, and the first weekend after baby is here?
I'm prepared to be told I'm being a nasty cow, but it just made me feel weird that they've all just made this decision without discussing jut with me.
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TurquoiseWeekend · 24/02/2019 21:30
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