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AIBU to be pissed off over "you wouldn't last 5 minutes without me" from DP?

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Binchicken Sat 23-Feb-19 22:53:30

Just that really. Said during an argument.

He took it back afterwards saying "I didn't mean it like that" but I don't really see how else it could be meant.

PregnantSea Sat 23-Feb-19 23:41:00

Sounds like he was joking. It was in poor taste and I'd be annoyed too, but if he was smiling and you weren't fighting I would say he was just messing around. I've said this to my DH before - usually when he can't find his socks or his keys, and I know where they are. It's not serious in any way.

You know your own DP though, so if you think he meant something by it then he probably did. Maybe you should apply for jobs up north now? And if you get one first you can just head off on your own, he can follow later. Then you can smile at him and say you're managing just fine without him, but can he please pull his finger out and hurry up with his big important job hunt? That might annoy him lol ...

Binchicken Sat 23-Feb-19 23:48:37

I have applied for jobs further north, gotten interviews and an offer. But I stupidly decided to wait until he was ready. tbf, he was supportive of me when I was doing this and it was my decision not to go without him.

Binchicken Sat 23-Feb-19 23:50:02

I've calmed down and spoken to him, I guess he was just trying to be funny and made an arse of it. tbf he's normally one of the most non-malicious people around so this may have been a case of me blowing off the handle based on nothing.

HollowTalk Sat 23-Feb-19 23:51:20

Where do you want to live? If you have no children, please don't follow someone else or wait until they get their dream job.

FascinatingCarrot Sun 24-Feb-19 00:08:50

My dh used to say the same to me - to be fair he was financially right (I would have lasted obviously but would have been massively skint due to going to uni)
Then I pointed out how much I'd brought to his life - didnt have internet before I met him, no mobile phone despite being a tradesman who needed to take advantage of word of mouth calls, used to leave his damp clothes on a rack as that was what his mum did.
It can be hurtful, but throw what you have brought right back at him. He'll soon shut his mouth if he has any sense

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