I have a phobia of flying, really bad, mostly due to claustrophobia rather than crashing and the feeling of being trapped. I take valium and have had CBT and am already on anxiety meds for anxiety.
My Mum on the other hand loves flying and loves going abroad but would not go alone especially now she's older and has been unwell. She has for years very kindly paid for holidays for us knowing that we wouldn't afford to go. Some of these have been abroad.
I've been forcing myself to go and fly so as not to spoil it for everyone even though it completely ruins my holiday as I start being panicked weeks before and then can't relax knowing I have to come back. I was very bad on the plane both ways a couple of years ago and in complete fight or flight (ironic) and said I couldn't do it anymore. It was making me miserable but would ask for CBT.
Last year my Mum desperately wanted to go abroad again and due to her age and health commented it might be her last chance and such so I'll be honest I felt a bit guilty and I was persuaded to go .
The country was lovely but the hotel wasn't what we expected and it wasn't the trip my Mum really wanted so I know she would like to go back but I was really really poorly with anxiety. I said that until I could afford proper help and get on top of my anxiety in general I couldn't fly as it was making me ill.
This afternoon my Mum has started talking to the kids about holidays and her wanting to go on a plane etc again. I even at this point suggested that my Mum go with the ( sensible teen ) children if she wanted to fly and I would stay home. She doesn't feel confident about this incase she takes ill which is understandable.
I feel awful, I feel guilty but I just can't. I've already tried after CBT and cancelled a weekend away which involved a very short flight because I can't do it.
I can't afford the airliner courses at the moment.
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I feel guilty but I don't want to do it.
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Phobic · 23/02/2019 18:46
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