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breaking the girl code ?? wtf

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paintinmyhairAgain Sat 23-Feb-19 07:56:13

have seen this expression a lot recently, are the users under 13. surely it's not relevant to apply to a woman. yet another shite expression doing the rounds,
what expressions give you the rage ?

Guineapiglet345 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:09:52

I hate that phrase, I’ve no more loyalty to women than men and I’ll always put myself (or my family) first.

I hate “going forward” instead of in future or from now on.

gettingtherequickly Sat 23-Feb-19 08:09:57

HTH it's generally sarky and I really don't see the point of it.

Oh, and putting ,no? At the end of a statement, that give me the rage!

SimoneStrasser Sat 23-Feb-19 08:11:11

Reaching outangry

It’s intensely irritating .

CripsSandwiches Sat 23-Feb-19 08:13:26

YANBU. It's often used when some bloke has cheated and the woman is blamed for it.

Moorfields Sat 23-Feb-19 08:13:41

Sense checking
Holding out
Reaching out

IndianaMoleWoman Sat 23-Feb-19 08:16:34

“Gives me the rage” instead of just “makes me angry.” Sorry.

Vulpine Sat 23-Feb-19 08:21:23

To be pissed instead off to be pissed off

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Sat 23-Feb-19 08:23:23

That ridiculous Lisa Armstrong kept wittering on about 'gurl code'

You left him love and he moved on. Shit happens

nonevernotever Sat 23-Feb-19 08:24:05

On a journey. No we're not on a fucking journey, we're at work. Even worse is being on a rich fucking journey. Or maybe I just work with illiterate arses?

CouldntThink Sat 23-Feb-19 08:24:46

Things that happen being a ‘journey’. Everything is a fucking journey. No it isn’t.

MerdedeBrexit Sat 23-Feb-19 08:25:35

nonevernotever - you got there in your journey seconds before me grin

CouldntThink Sat 23-Feb-19 08:25:38

nonevernotever X post! grin Great minds.

wanderings Sat 23-Feb-19 08:25:38

Talk of "making" people do things, when it doesn't mean coercing.

My DH used to say: "I should have made you buy milk."

As far as I am concerned, "making" someone do something means coercing or forcing. Nobody makes me do anything. I don't mind being asked to do things such as buy milk, though.

Seline Sat 23-Feb-19 08:26:09

Hate it. I have no obligations to women just because I'm a woman.

MerdedeBrexit Sat 23-Feb-19 08:26:23

CouldntThink - grin

AlwaysSomethingThere Sat 23-Feb-19 08:27:37


echt Sat 23-Feb-19 08:27:51

We need to "have a conversation" about this.
A "rich" conversation is even worse.
YY to shiteness of journey.

allthegoodusernameshavegone Sat 23-Feb-19 08:27:55

“To be fair” I hate it everyone says it in front of every sentence

DameSquashalot Sat 23-Feb-19 08:27:58

Reaching out and any other corporate bollocks. Especially when used outside work. 😠👿

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Sat 23-Feb-19 08:28:05

'borrow me' - borrow me a fiver

'gotten' - ffs this isn't Shakespearean England, language has evolved.

YouokHun Sat 23-Feb-19 08:30:32

@SimoneStrasser this is for you

Janedoughnut Sat 23-Feb-19 08:30:57

Process something. What happened to thinking about it.

UnperfectLife Sat 23-Feb-19 08:32:09

haha a 'rich conversation', I'm going to introduce that term to my vocabulary just to annoy people!!!!
Hate gotten too. It's wrong and so unnecessary. 'Got' is just fine.

YouokHun Sat 23-Feb-19 08:32:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Iloveliberty Sat 23-Feb-19 08:33:06

To be honest with you ... I hate this, it makes it sound like you usually lie to me !!

BangingOn Sat 23-Feb-19 08:33:37

End of.
Wow. Just wow.

bowchicawowwow Sat 23-Feb-19 08:35:26

The 'sweet spot' fuck off already.

paintinmyhairAgain Sat 23-Feb-19 08:36:06

can i get a latte /flat white etc. no you bloody well can't unless you are actually serving. ggrr.

mummmy2017 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:36:21

Duty .. said the American way . Dudee

Beachbooty Sat 23-Feb-19 08:36:46

Touching base. Ugh.

lottielady Sat 23-Feb-19 08:36:59

Leaning in.
Making memories.
Living my best life.
‘Right now’ at the end of sentences.
‘So’ at the beginning of sentences.

I need a shower after writing that lot <shudder>

Flutternotsoshy Sat 23-Feb-19 08:39:15

I learned them.

No you didn't.

You taught them.

Strugglingtodomybest Sat 23-Feb-19 08:39:45

What exactly is the girl code anyway? I've only ever seen it on here and it appears to involve not sleeping with another woman's partner. Is there any more to it or is that it?

Peanutbatter Sat 23-Feb-19 08:44:05

Yes I agree Iloveliberty- To be honest with you - usually used by someone untrustworthy

and Guys.
"Hi guys, what can I get you to drink?"
"You guys ready to order yet?"
Just sounds false, why not say "would you like drinks?"

zen1 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:46:01

‘Super’ used as an intensifier, e.g ‘I was super happy to see you’. Grrrrrr

SaturdayNext Sat 23-Feb-19 08:48:41


I'm not anyone's hun, if you call me hun I am definitely going to Judge you.

morningconstitutional2017 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:48:45

'At the end of the day' - often an excuse for not caring about how a result is arrived at in a moral sense, just get there, ifyswim.

PalmTree101 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:51:41


Argh that’s my new hated word.

I’ve managed to get over ‘holibobs’ but anyone who says famalam pisses me right off.

lottiegarbanzo Sat 23-Feb-19 08:52:22

I've never heard that phrase. It sounds like something incel-types might say, about trying to 'hack into' what it is to be a girl, so they can manipulate that code in order to insert themselves.

morningconstitutional2017 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:54:35

I must add 'envisioned' - no, you didn't. 'I thought or imagined' is perfectly adequate.
Will you 'trade' - I'd prefer a good old fashioned 'swap.'

PurpleWithRed Sat 23-Feb-19 08:58:24

"Just saying"

Aargh. Shorthand for 'I just said something rude or offensive to you, you picked me up on it, but saying 'just saying' I am telling you I have no responsibility for actually saying it so you shouldn't have a go at me but I still think it's true and it's for your own good'

Them: 'You are a fat cow'
Me: WTF?
Them: 'Just Saying'
Me, apparently: 'Oh that's OK then, you were Just Saying it'


paintinmyhairAgain Sat 23-Feb-19 08:59:15

making memories
hey guys
touching base
need to connect with you

PurpleWithRed Sat 23-Feb-19 08:59:15

Oh, and when did that traditional English staple Macaroni Cheese become Mac n Cheese?

Bouledeneige Sat 23-Feb-19 08:59:26

I sort of like 'girl code' for girls. It was important for my DD when she was younger and didn't just involve not getting off with your friend's boyfriend or ex. It also meant looking out for each other, not leaving a friend on her own to get home, not leaving a friend drunk in a field at a festival, that sort of stuff. It gave me comfort that they were principled about looking out for each other. I've not really heard it apply to adult women.

Foottunnel Sat 23-Feb-19 09:00:48

“Makes my teeth itch” - hate it

paintinmyhairAgain Sat 23-Feb-19 09:01:08

did you mean to be so rude ? < this ggrrr - yeah, i did so what ?

Crowdo Sat 23-Feb-19 09:02:10

A lot to unpack.

ppeatfruit Sat 23-Feb-19 09:03:08

A 'pop' of colour AAAAH ; this was said on a TV interior design programme and all of us MN posters agreed how annoying it was. But it's still being said WHY????

I agree about "The end of the day" it could mean ANYTHING

paintinmyhairAgain Sat 23-Feb-19 09:03:27

youtube influencers what a load of shite that is.

Dieu Sat 23-Feb-19 09:04:32

'My bad'. It sounds like something only a toddler should say!

AdoreTheBeach Sat 23-Feb-19 09:05:21

I had t heard that phrase until on MN

HOWEVER myself and my friends growing up, indeed my friends now have a moral compass that includes not screwing over women. Be it your friend or somrbe you don’t know. Man is married = no go. Man has a girlfriend = no go. Man is ex of a friend = no go.

I have had moral conversations with my daughters (late teen/early 20’s) and advise them accordingly. We don’t have a name for it rather, would you find it acceptable if someone did x, y, z to you, if not, don’t do to them.

JacketPotatoQueen Sat 23-Feb-19 09:05:41

Making sure we are all “singing from the same song sheet”. Usually said at work by our boss.....
Or “let’s do some blue sky thinking....”

NameChangeNugget Sat 23-Feb-19 09:05:51

It’s a hideous phrase but, I think it’s sentiment is in the right place.

For me, it’s scummy things like dating best friends ex’s & the like

Catchytune Sat 23-Feb-19 09:06:18

I quite like “ girl code” but I think it’s only used in circles where finding a man is ranked as important.
I’ve only heard it used negatively to point out where other women are going wrong. ie immediately going out with someone your friend has just broken up with, getting off with someone you know your friend likes more etc.
Sadly I think if you use girl code it probably means you have the sort of friends that need it.

CouldntThink Sat 23-Feb-19 09:06:38

Oh, and when did that traditional English staple Macaroni Cheese become Mac n Cheese?

Yeah I’ve wondered this. Mac n cheese is an American thing and I don’t even think it’s made the same?

AdoreTheBeach Sat 23-Feb-19 09:06:50

Sorry, read boulednegie post and this too we discuss. Very important for our daughters

knobblykneesandturnedouttoes Sat 23-Feb-19 09:09:50

People who 'turn around' every time they speak. 'I turned around and said...' or 'then she turned around and said....'

I get images of these people struggling to have conversations at all due to all the turning round.

'Apoplectic' or 'incandescent' with rage. Usually over something very minor.

'Makes my teeth itch'


I think mine is really about people being dramatic rather than the actual phrases.

Namechangedbecauseiwantto Sat 23-Feb-19 09:13:42

"Oh my days". I can't bear that nonsensical phrase!
My bad 🤬🤬

drogon1 Sat 23-Feb-19 09:18:08

"It is what it is"

No shit.

GetOffTheTableMabel Sat 23-Feb-19 09:18:52

Why is it at the beginning of a sentence?! It doesn’t belong there. It serves no purpose. It makes you sound like a YouTuber about to offer up one of their portentous (but actually pointless) confessionals. I have lost all sense of proportion about this but I want to punch people who start sentences with ‘So’.

DanielRicciardosSmile Sat 23-Feb-19 09:22:07

I hate "on trend" so much. I'm not sure why but it makes me want to growl under my breath every time I read/hear it.

Jaggypinecone Sat 23-Feb-19 09:22:47

‘Largely’ when did this become an acceptable adverb? What was wrong with ‘mostly’. ParticulArly overused in weather forecasts e.g. it will be largely dry in the east.

Overuse of the word like. Don’t they teach adjectives in school anymore?

DoorsAndWater Sat 23-Feb-19 09:23:08

I’m probably being unkind but I dislike it when I ask someone how they are and they reply, ‘I’m good’ anything other than this, I’m well or really well thank you or I’m not doing so great seems to grate less on me 🤷🏼‍♀️

Janedoughnut Sat 23-Feb-19 09:23:13

Myself used instead of me or I and yourself instead of you.

Whatdoyouknowwhenyouknownowt Sat 23-Feb-19 09:23:30

So this happened... with indecipherable pic underneath.

Whatdoyouknowwhenyouknownowt Sat 23-Feb-19 09:23:51

Or so it begins...

LellowYedbetter Sat 23-Feb-19 09:24:44

If I see anyone posting about “girl-code” I automatically assume they are 14 years old or under.

WobblyLondoner Sat 23-Feb-19 09:25:29

What is famalam?! I hate it already but I've no idea what it means.

I quite like 'oh my days'. Very popular with the youth in my neck of the woods but it makes them sound like my gran.

Corporate speak is my pet hate. "Let me socialise that thought with you"... Yuk.

ALemonyPea Sat 23-Feb-19 09:26:51

Rant over, or worse, rant over lol.

As if the full stop at the end of the ranty paragraph wasn't indication enough.

ppeatfruit Sat 23-Feb-19 09:26:54

Yes GetOff It seems to be used by almost everyone of a certain age nowadays.

A totally unnnecessary pronoun.

CheeseAndBeans Sat 23-Feb-19 09:29:18

Anything unnecessarily cutesy.
Bubba, bubs
Hubby, hubs
When people describe themselves as Mama bear or similar - ugh!!!

NotTheFordType Sat 23-Feb-19 09:30:09

When someone nouns a verb or verbs a noun.

EG "I'll send you an invite"
No you won't. You'll invite me by sending an invitation.

EG "This gives me the happy"
No it doesn't. It gives you happiness or makes you happy.
(Particularly annoying on FB when you then get a bunch of comments going "YAY all of the happy" and "I has the happy too!"
Bitch, you're 40, knock it off.)

why1stheRumgon3 Sat 23-Feb-19 09:31:41

I hate hate when people say "I'm not being funny but"

MereDintofPandiculation Sat 23-Feb-19 09:31:46

my friends now have a moral compass - I'd never heard that until Gordon Brown discovered his. What does it actually mean? Are you supposed to head north or is any direction OK?

"Absolutely" instead of "yes", especially in radio interviews.
"I'm good" - "no, you're not good. You may be well, but good is the last word I'd use to describe you". So far I've resisted saying this to DS!

"went" to mean "said" "She went... then I went... then she went..."

norrismcwhirtersfridgemagnet Sat 23-Feb-19 09:33:41

Reaching out now has a new friend - circling back. Said to me this week.

Omgineedanamechange Sat 23-Feb-19 09:34:19

Bae, when I rule the world anyone using that word will be sentenced to twenty years hard labour, thirty if they post “bae caught me sleeping lol” along with a faked selfie of them with their eyes closed.

Bouledeneige Sat 23-Feb-19 09:34:41

I find pedants quite annoying.

Fuppy Sat 23-Feb-19 09:35:56

"No offence but..."


PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Sat 23-Feb-19 09:38:28

Literally - I literally died

No you fucking didn't.

MereDintofPandiculation Sat 23-Feb-19 09:42:11

When someone nouns a verb or verbs a noun. or worse still, creates an unnecessary new noun or verb- "expiration date" - what's wrong with "expiry"? And there's several that I can't call to mind at the moment where "ise" is added to a noun to make a verb even though the noun has been derived from a shorter and perfectly adequate verb.

SpiritedLondon Sat 23-Feb-19 09:47:26

The thing I dislike about the “ girl code” is that it’s another way of defining what’s acceptable “good” behaviour for females. So a single woman sleeps with a married man yet she’s the one breaking the girl code. I’ve never heard anyone mention a boys code ever - because let’s face it we expect them to behave badly or we at least are willing to accept it. I’m all for morally good behaviour for everyone but you can fuck off if you think you’re laying your girl code on me.

Other than that I hate #blessed with a passion.

JaneJeffer Sat 23-Feb-19 09:48:31


WhentheRabbitsWentWild Sat 23-Feb-19 09:50:50

Bubba (sorry)
As a PP said , putting No? at the end of things

But most of all the way some come at a poster as if they are cross examining her/him in a court of law !

drogon1 Sat 23-Feb-19 09:53:15

"Making memories" makes me want to recoil inside myself it makes me cringe that much.

Loads of my friends write it on social media too so I can't express my hatred of it anywhere but here!

zen1 Sat 23-Feb-19 09:54:46

FIL hates the use of the word ‘issues’ instead of using ‘problems’.

Isitsixoclockalready Sat 23-Feb-19 09:55:48

Vulpine - yes, 'pissed' instead of 'pissed off' and 'fess up' instead of 'own up'.

RollerJed Sat 23-Feb-19 09:55:53

I was in a meeting the other day when they said the sentence ' it will be sunseted' meaning finished up.

What. The. Actual. Fuck hmm

thecatneuterer Sat 23-Feb-19 09:56:54

@wanderings Eh? I've never heard it used that way. Either it's a regional thing or your husband doesn't understand English.

JaneJeffer Sat 23-Feb-19 09:58:46

Using "that's hilarious" to disagree with someone. No it's not and neither are you.

Quintella Sat 23-Feb-19 10:03:44

This thread seems to happen on a weekly basis. This and 'what word do you hate. I hate the word moist' followed by 387 people saying 'I hate the word moist too'.

As for 'girl code' it does sound a bit juvenile but it basically means don't be a cunt to your friends. For example, don't shag a friend's ex husband just because you can.

SureTry Sat 23-Feb-19 10:10:11

Anything that is followed by ".... gives me life" or some dreary statement usually regarding a minor celeb finished with "and we're here for it"

WhentheRabbitsWentWild Sat 23-Feb-19 10:20:26

Sunseted ? loll Wtaf indeed.

Springwalk Sat 23-Feb-19 11:05:12

Threads like this

AriadnePersephoneCloud Sat 23-Feb-19 11:18:04

Loop you in
Ping you

Just send an email ffs

iklboo Sat 23-Feb-19 11:29:06

BIL3 always says 'won' instead of 'beat'. As in 'I won him at squash'.

That's nice, dear. Are you going to put him on a shelf or in the cabinet?

MaryBoBary Sat 23-Feb-19 12:36:10

When ordering food at a restaurant and people say “I’ll get the...”.

It’s so annoying- you won’t get anything, the server will get it for you. And what happened to please?

I think it’s an American phrase but I hear it more and more here

lettymoo Sat 23-Feb-19 13:07:53

Anyone who calls their parents "the madre" and "the padre" ought to be shot. Looking at you DSSis (with a silent D)

DameSquashalot Sat 23-Feb-19 13:45:56

I quite like "oh my days" too Wobbly

DameSquashalot Sat 23-Feb-19 13:48:13

"you've won the internet today" really annoys me 😠

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