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Beachbooty Sat 23-Feb-19 06:49:50

We’ve booked a weeks holiday in North Wales for the Easter holidays. Non refundable, we’ve paid the balance in full. DH now can’t come as he’s on a training course that week which he forgot about and he can’t miss. No big deal, I’ve holidayed on my own with the dc’s 3 and 7 we have a good time.


The cottage is in the middle of nowhere, it back onto a forest with the nearest house a 15 minute walk away. It is totally isolated with no phone signal but there is patchy WiFi. There is no landline in the house either. Dh wants to cut our losses and cancel or see if any of our friends want to go. It sleeps 4 so friends joining us is out of the question. I think I’ll be fine going but he’s a right strop about it.

echt Sat 23-Feb-19 06:52:08

He's pissed off because he's lost a holiday because of his own lack of attention.

Go on your own.

Beachbooty Sat 23-Feb-19 06:53:00

Yes I thought that but I think he is generally concerned about us going and being so isolated. We’ll have the car though so we won’t be stranded.

ApolloandDaphne Sat 23-Feb-19 06:54:39

I am failing to see the issue. People live in places like that permanently. Sounds amazing. Peace and quite and lots of wildlife. Nature walks and fresh air. Go and have fun.

Beachbooty Sat 23-Feb-19 06:55:41

Apollo yes I intend to! I’m actually really looking forward to the peace and quiet!

Hunter037 Sat 23-Feb-19 06:57:43

Although it's non refundable, would it br possible to change the date? I would contact them and explain the situation and see if you can move it.

DocusDiplo Sat 23-Feb-19 06:57:44

Do you have a sister or mum who could come? For company not to babysit you!

caughtinanet Sat 23-Feb-19 07:01:08

Some people might live in places like that but that's hardly relevant, I don't think it would be many parents first choice for a holiday with 2 young children on their own.

Holidays are to be enjoyed and if it's going to end up being something to be endured better not to go imo.

Is it near enough for you to go on spec and if it's not working out come home early?

MaggieAndHopey Sat 23-Feb-19 07:02:56

It's non refundable so why is he in a strop? Surely better that three of you get the use of it?

Dumbie Sat 23-Feb-19 07:04:20

Go! You can always cut it short if you need ti

JenniferJareau Sat 23-Feb-19 07:05:17

Go on your own. His fault he can't work a calendar.

ILiveInSalemsLot Sat 23-Feb-19 07:06:43

Easter is a busy time so they could get it rebooked. You could try appealing to the owner.

I’d go by myself with the kids. I’m sure people stay there all the time.

AuntMarch Sat 23-Feb-19 07:07:51

I'd go, but I'd make sure I'd fully loaded my Kindle and plenty of board games and activity books etc for when it rains, because it's Wales.

itsboiledeggsagain Sat 23-Feb-19 07:08:50

Isn't it a bit Wierd to book a holiday you basically find a bit scary if your dh isn't there (or your dh does)?

Lovingit81 Sat 23-Feb-19 07:14:25

Sorry but I'd be nervous with no phone signal at all. What do you do if there's an emergency?? I'm not a city dweller, I actually live in the countryside myself, but no phone signal would make me jittery with children. I'm sure there will be plenty of posters who tell me I'm an idiot but I wouldn't risk it with my children. That's just my opinion. Best of luck with your plans. smile

Shoxfordian Sat 23-Feb-19 07:15:20

Is he in a strop because he forgot his course and can't go or because he doesn't want you to go? I don't see why you shouldn't go anyway, you'll be fine.

Enb76 Sat 23-Feb-19 07:18:40

I’d go. Sounds like the perfect holiday to me and I’d leave the electronics at home and bring books, two packs of playing card, some board games and let the children go feral for the week.

ConfusedAngryWorried Sat 23-Feb-19 07:18:45

If its got wifi there will be a landline. Check with owner that landline ok to use in emergency. You can often use wifi to make call too. I would say go but then i often holiday with my kids without my DH due to his work.

hoge Sat 23-Feb-19 07:21:15

It would still be isolated if he was there 🤷🏻‍♀️

NearlySchoolTimeAgain Sat 23-Feb-19 07:22:40

We have mobile WiFi but no landline.

I’d go smile

Redskyandrainbows67 Sat 23-Feb-19 07:23:29

I’d go. Can he join you around his course or is it too far?

SaturdayNext Sat 23-Feb-19 07:28:26

Is there a landline anywhere near, e.g. a phone box? I must admit I'd be a little wary of being so far out of communication - what if you get ill or have an accident?

DisplayPurposesOnly Sat 23-Feb-19 07:31:52

I don't see why it's now'scary' just because your husband isnt going to be there. I'd be quite insulted by that!

And the horrors of no mobile signal... Which has only been a thing for 25 years. All those years people coped perfectly well without.

Go for it!

UrsulaPandress Sat 23-Feb-19 07:38:54

Go. Sounds fabulous.

Eliza9917 Sat 23-Feb-19 07:40:32

I wouldn't go. There's been many a horror film based on this exact scenario.

Boulezvous Sat 23-Feb-19 07:40:32

I'd go too. As I've been divorced for 12 years I've always holidayed on my own with the kids. Just because you're the only adult you're not more likely to have an emergency and when have you ever had an emergency? I've never had one at home or away.

With WiFi you can skype call, text, WhatsApp and FB messenger.

He's just being sulky and silly. Why shouldn't you have fun and a lovely break? Women aren't some vulnerable little babies.

FudgeBrownie2019 Sat 23-Feb-19 07:43:09

I'd go. He can grouse all he likes, why should the rest of you have to miss out because of his job?

Beachbooty Sat 23-Feb-19 07:43:56

Yes I can use WhatsApp to make calls. Screw it im going! I’m actually rather excited 😆

anniehm Sat 23-Feb-19 07:48:23

If someone wants to take over the booking then perhaps he's right - he doesn't want to miss out, but if it's go alone or loose the money I would go

Doilooklikeatourist Sat 23-Feb-19 07:50:31

He’s being daft
We’ve got no phone signal at home and dodgy WiFi
It’s normal in rural Wales
Enjoy the lovely scenery , beautiful fresh air and read a couple of books in the evenings

littledoll33 Sat 23-Feb-19 07:52:37


OMG it sounds so amazing.

It sounds like it will be an adventure in the Enchanted Wood. (Enid Blyton book...)

I am sure there will be SOME wifi/phone signal, even 2 minutes walk down the road. And as a pp said, there will surely be a landline.

To have a place with no way of contacting anyone from the property would be madness.

You say the nearest house is a 15 minute walk away. That isn't that much IMO. I walk to our local shop 2 or 3 times a week, and that is a 15-20 minute walk there - and back. (Sorry, don't mean to go all '4 Yorkshiremen' I just don't think 15 minutes is a long walk.)

Go! You will enjoy it. I love North Wales. Is it in Snowdonia National Park?

Frazzled2207 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:01:11

I personally wouldn't fancy but if you are ok with it then absolutely you should go.

SpanielEars070 Sat 23-Feb-19 08:12:15

Sounds like my dream holiday. Go and have a great time.

Your DH is probably stressing about having to look after himself for a week.............

CripsSandwiches Sat 23-Feb-19 08:15:04

YADNBU. This is all his fault. You should definitely go.

Springwalk Sat 23-Feb-19 08:23:42

If go too! You will have a wonderful time. No way would we miss it. Sound idyllic to me.
If you have faint WiFi you can prob still use your phone. We have the same thing here.

tinyvulture Sat 23-Feb-19 08:31:06

What on Earth is his problem? You need a big strong man to fight off the wolves and bears and dragons? Fuck that! (Sorry, but as a single mum myself I’ve faced a fair bit of being told where I can and can’t take DD on holiday and it always makes me cross - I don’t need a man to protect me! And I don’t intend to live some kind of joyless half-life because I am no longer with her father...... )
You go, OP, and have a great time. If by some weird conincidence you or the DC have an emergency, you’d do just what you would have done with him there - phone for help using the WiFi. If scary forest-dwelling monsters break in, they’d only have killed your DH too if he was there.....

Beachbooty Sat 23-Feb-19 08:33:36

@littledoll33 yes it’s in Betws-y-coed!

kbPOW Sat 23-Feb-19 08:35:50

It's sounds amazing and that's such a beautiful place!

WatchingFromTheWings Sat 23-Feb-19 09:19:43

I'd go!

UrsulaPandress Sat 23-Feb-19 10:40:45

Please go. You can spend the evenings learnt how to correctly pronounce where you are!

SaturdayNext Sat 23-Feb-19 10:44:30

OK, if you can make calls via WhatsApp, there's no reason whatsoever why you can't go.

bridgetreilly Sat 23-Feb-19 10:46:50

I'd go. You feel fine about it. I'd probably make sure that once a day you're somewhere with signal so you can check in with DH, but I really don't think it's that big a deal.

If it turns out that it doesn't work out, you can always pack up and come home.

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