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To leave 14, 7 and 2 year old home alone?

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Gingerninj Fri 22-Feb-19 17:17:08

I have a course from 5:00 pm to 9:30 next week on tuesday, stuggling to find anyone to look after DC but my oldest has suggested letting her babysit. I've left them to go to the shops before but not for this long. I think it would be different if it was the middle of the day on a saturday but with it being the evening on a school night she'll have to do bedtime. I'm thinking about just cancelling

PooleySpooley Fri 22-Feb-19 17:18:12

How mature is she in dealing with the 2 yr old?

Kettleon80 Fri 22-Feb-19 17:18:45

Personally I would not leave a two year old with anyone under the age of about 18

TipseyTorvey Fri 22-Feb-19 17:18:56

Hmmm. 14 and 7 is one thing but a toddler.... I think I wouldn't. I know they did in the 70s but I suspect that's illegal these days. So sorry, but yes you may need to cancel.

DontTouchTheMoustache Fri 22-Feb-19 17:19:28

If she is very responsible it should be fine, perhaps let the neighbours know in case she needs help in an emergancy?

KatharinaRosalie Fri 22-Feb-19 17:19:49

Didn't we all used to babysit actual babies when we were 14? And it's own sibling, own home - I would.

PooleySpooley Fri 22-Feb-19 17:20:40

It’s not illegal.

Dimsumlosesum Fri 22-Feb-19 17:20:45

Depends on the 14 year old tbh

Kettleon80 Fri 22-Feb-19 17:21:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Dreamingofkfc Fri 22-Feb-19 17:21:31

Not at that time.of night. Maybe if the toddler was in bed. Between 5-7 is a crazy time in our house though!

Kettleon80 Fri 22-Feb-19 17:21:29

Whoops wrong thread 🤣🤣 can that post be removed?

Justkeeprollingalong Fri 22-Feb-19 17:21:36

You know your own children. If you are happy, it's fine. Obviously have your phone on and maybe alert a friend/neighbour too.

WorraLiberty Fri 22-Feb-19 17:21:44

If she's confident enough to do it and you're happy for her to go ahead then why not?

Ask yourself what's the worst that can happen and make your decision from there.

bobstersmum Fri 22-Feb-19 17:21:45

Definitely not. A 2 year old needs an adult to me in charge, I wouldn't think it would look great if there was an incident and they found a 14 year old in charge.

NoAngel1 Fri 22-Feb-19 17:24:55

I think if you feel happy that your 14 year old is responsible and knows what to do then it will be fine. Keep your phone accessible so she can phone you if needed.

TipseyTorvey Fri 22-Feb-19 17:25:32

How far away is the course? Are there neighbours they can go to in an emergency? I suppose I'm just a worrier but others are right it probably down to how mature your 14 is?

HighlightsandHeels Fri 22-Feb-19 17:27:28

Yep I would.

Dontstepinthecowpat Fri 22-Feb-19 17:28:22

Depends on the 14 year old. There are 14 year olds who have their own babies.

flitwit99 Fri 22-Feb-19 17:28:45

It's a big ask for a 14 yr old to get a 2 yr old into bed and settled. I think probably no.
But having said that, would it be a major disaster if the 2 yr old was still awake at 9.30 for once? Probably not.
So if 14yo is willing to accept they might have a tired and cranky 2 yr old awake right up till 9.30pm then why not?

Will the 7 yr old go to bed when the older one says it's time or will they play up too since it's a sibling?

ShesABelter Fri 22-Feb-19 17:30:39

I wouldn't be worried about the 2 and 14 year old. My 14 year old would most definitely be able to watch a two year old a couple of hours and get them to bed. It would be the 7 year old being naughty and misbehaving I'd be concerned about.. would they behave?

babycatcher411 Fri 22-Feb-19 17:33:30

It would depend on the 14 year old, and their relationship with the 2 year old, but yes, most likely. How far away will you be and will you be easy for her to reach you?

I had my son at 15, so not much older, and yes it’s very different them being your own child, but I was 100% responsible all the time, this is only for a few hours.
Equally, by that point I’d been baby sitting my mums friends kids on the odd evening for pocket money for probably about the amount of time you talk about.

I’d probably make sure they’re all fed and watered before you go out so the 14 year old is only responsible for basic tasks.

Ithinkmycatisevil Fri 22-Feb-19 17:38:03

My dd is a very responsible 14 year old. I'm still not sure if leave a 2 year old with her in the evening though.

I think that really it depends on a a lot of things. How mature your dd is. What she's like generally with her siblings. How far away your course is. If you feel the younger ones would listen to her. If you think she would be able to cope in an emergency. If there's a neighbour near by she could go to if some thing bad did happen.

They're your children and only you know the answers to these questions.

Gingerninj Fri 22-Feb-19 17:39:25

I think she won't have much trouble with DD2, she often helps me out but DS7 may not always be willing to listen to her but then again he might be good as gold so it's quite risky. The course is about 20 minutes away. At her age I often babysat my younger siblings, youngest would have been around 2 then and we were fine but I still worry

lyralalala Fri 22-Feb-19 17:41:24

Totally depends on your kids. One of my 15yo regularly babysits younger children in the evening. Her most regular job is a 2yo and a 4yo.

However my other 15yo I struggle to leave alone, never mind with youngest.

So you can only go on your kids.

Surfingtheweb Fri 22-Feb-19 17:41:39

She will be fine.

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