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How to get myself up and out of bed (depressed)

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Rspu3 Fri 22-Feb-19 11:36:16

Had bad news this week thst has lead to me feeling very anxious and stressed about everything. When this happens I tend to find it hard to get up as I don’t see a point. Today is normally my housework day, the place is now a mess as I had yesterday off and just stayed in bed all day. I want to get up and do it but finding it hard any help motivating me ?

SoftPlant Fri 22-Feb-19 12:00:00

Might be a random suggestion, but I find playing some loud upbeat music through a speaker really motivates me. You could try leaving your phone/laptop/device/Bluetooth speaker on your bedside table, so in the morning you can blast your favourite music. It works extra well if it gets you singing along.

Then you take the speaker with you to the bathroom, do your teeth and shower, throw some clothes on, and you're up for the day.

This is sometimes the only way I can motivate myself to do cleaning. Good luck!

RosemarysBush Fri 22-Feb-19 12:02:07

Tell yourself you can do it (over and over). Have a shower? I always feel more motivated after that.

RosemarysBush Fri 22-Feb-19 12:04:55

The point in getting up my lovely, is you will feel better in yourself if you achieve something (even just getting dressed, having something to eat and making the bed). And you have the reward of being able to go back to bed later.

Villanellesproudmum Fri 22-Feb-19 12:15:02

This is what I do when I’m overwhelmed and having a bad day. Only works on my days off work but, I watch TV and every time there is a break I do something, amazing what can be done in 3 minutes, I do this all throughout the day, I get to rest and also do what needs doing, hanging washing up, wash up, wipe down sinks etc. Works for me.

WhenISnappedAndFarted Fri 22-Feb-19 12:18:34

One step at a time.

Don't worry about the housework, get yourself out of bed and have a cup of tea.

If you can then face the housework, one small thing at a time. Maybe put a wash on and don't feel bad at yourself if you can't do it all. Be kind to yourself OP.

Beechview Fri 22-Feb-19 12:19:38

Give yourself a countdown of 3..2..1 then get up and get into the shower.

Then get dressed, make your bed and have something to eat and drink. Put the radio on and get going.

Don’t think about stuff and just put yourself in action mode.

WineGummyBear Fri 22-Feb-19 12:19:43

Sorry to hear you have had bad news OP.

Set yourself a couple of really modest goals.

Shower & dressed
One load of washing
Clean one thing

Then allow yourself to rest. At least you will have made some small progress and you can be proud of yourself for that.

Small steps

LellowYedbetter Fri 22-Feb-19 12:22:50

What helps me is to have a little check list of stuff I want to complete in that day.

A bad day for me will read:
Have a shower
Put a wash on
Clear mucky pots

A not so bad day will read:
Have a shower, wash and dry hair
Put a wash on
Clear mucky pots and clean kitchen sides down
Hoover up
Take dog for a little walk around the block

A better day will involve more etc etc ...

I find I feel better if I achieve everything in my check list, no matter how small they seem to other people

Also, listen to your favourite music

LadyFidgetAndHerHandbag Fri 22-Feb-19 12:27:52

Having a list really helps me when I'm struggling to get out of bed. At my most depressed it will just be
- have a shower
- get dressed
- eat something sensible
If the day is a little better I'll add another easy job like put a wash on or unload the dishwasher.
Be kind to yourself and don't expect too much. Being depressed is exhausting enough without adding pressure.

Rspu3 Fri 22-Feb-19 12:33:59

Thankyou so much for your replies, I have got up and washed dishes and put a load on so going to keep going while having breaks for mn and a smoke lol.
I’ve been feeling like this for the last year and a half and it just doesn’t seem to be getting any better, I feel like I’m in a nightmare I can’t get out of. Me and my husband can’t concieve and our doctor is messing us about for referrals to specialist had two appointments that have been cancelled because of our gps mistakes. I would feel better if we had an appointment and knew where we were at. It’s just a cycle I think about it constantly and feel like I’m trapped waiting for this appointment.

MiceSqueakCatsMeow Fri 22-Feb-19 12:39:01

Antidepressants were the only thing that got me out of bed and the doctor validating me that I was ill and not defective.

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