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Dohee Fri 22-Feb-19 04:54:02

My dc 100% Well 99% I think.

My parents about 90% each

Nobody else lol.

Happygolucky009 Fri 22-Feb-19 06:53:04

Dohee you are right, you don't know who your friends are until they are needed! I too have lost friends when hitting hard times, but I found opening up and looking for new friends helped. I will never forget how sad I felt reaching out to practically strangers for help, some amazing people reached out and got me back on my feet. Be brave, do something out of the ordinary to find a friend and try not to worry about what happens when you meet stormy waters ahead. Good luck x

Happygolucky009 Fri 22-Feb-19 06:54:29

Dohee , glad you are ok now....

riotlady Fri 22-Feb-19 07:06:04

My daughter, partner, sister, grandparents (especially my Granny, we’re very close) and best friends.

My mum does love me but that doesn’t always translate in to treating me well iyswim

Zoflorabore Fri 22-Feb-19 07:08:46

My 2 dc, my dp, my parents, dgm, best friend.

PinkSmitterton Fri 22-Feb-19 07:11:56

DP, very much. He tells me several times a day (sorry, nauseating I know!)

DM with all her heart but she died a few years ago. I miss her terribly.

DF as best as he knows how

In a less "pressing" way Dsis and DBs

Maybe one or two close friends, I know they are there for me in any case.

I should definitely get a pet!

MamaBear2181 Fri 22-Feb-19 07:13:15

My OH, my 4 DCs, 4 cats, DM, DF, DStepmother, PIL and my best friends.

As a PP mentioned it is an odd question, are you feeling ok OP?

0ccamsRazor Fri 22-Feb-19 07:23:17

My dc, dh, dsis1, dsis2, dm, df, dn, extended family, friends. Feel very lucky to share love with them all, we are a very close family and hold our friendships in the same vein.

0ccamsRazor Fri 22-Feb-19 07:24:11

Ps are you ok op?

Dohee Fri 22-Feb-19 07:24:21

I'm perfectly fine. It's because I've read a few threads today where the OP is told to talk to her friends etc. And I realised I actually don't have any. Well I do. I have loads of friends. Just not ones who could come pick me up in an emergency (because they're on the other side of the continent lol). 'Hey honey, I know you're in Auckland, but I need someone to hang out with tonight in London. Is that ok?'

MistressDeeCee Fri 22-Feb-19 07:24:25

DCs
DP
Parents
Brother
2 best friends

I don't have legions of friends and family...

Isth Fri 22-Feb-19 07:27:39

Mm. People who actually love me; My fiancé, my dog, my mum, my four siblings and one of my sibling-in-laws, my niece and nephew, my grandmother, my godmother, a couple of uncles and four of my closest friends. All people I know (and have proved) I can rely on through thick and thin.
Oh and apparently two men from work and probably my abusive father I haven’t seen for eleven years would say he does too.

BendydickCuminsnatch Fri 22-Feb-19 07:29:49

My sons, husband and parents in that order. My sister says she does and she probably does but we’re not close so it seems a bit contrived. I’m a bit relieved people aren’t saying nieces and nephews much as while I certainly care for their wellbeing and think they’re fine people, I think LOVE would be overstating it. PIL certainly don’t love me although FIL would argue he does but is absolutely lying 😄

MiniTheMinx Fri 22-Feb-19 07:30:11

DH
Dc X 2
DF although he is demented so is due to forget
Two best friends.....I think

I don't have any siblings, both sides of my family are all older than me and i only see them at weddings and funerals.

I think modern life doesn't facilitate friendships and support networks or contact with extended family. There is just no time.

MancaroniCheese Fri 22-Feb-19 07:32:57

Kids, cats, OH, parents, sister and BIL and their kids and my best friend from school.

Several friends who care for me but not in a profound love way.

flowers to all feeling alone.

CielBleuEtNuages Fri 22-Feb-19 07:33:38

I was thinking about this recently. Id say my DC, DH and parents. Thats all. But they do love me very much.

No real friends.

Vitalogy Fri 22-Feb-19 07:34:22

Apart from our parents and children where the love is usually unconditional. We have to truly love ourselves before (in most cases) we can receive that love from others in return.

Vitalogy Fri 22-Feb-19 07:35:49

*our children

DustyMaiden Fri 22-Feb-19 07:40:36

I have not a single friend.
Family, many who adore me
DD X2 DS DF DGD X3 DGS DSIS DB x2 DN X3 and many more

junebirthdaygirl Fri 22-Feb-19 07:44:49

My dps are dead now so:
Dh 3dc and all my siblings of whom there are many. We have that hugely supportive relationship between us although we all lead very independent lives. I have a few friends of long standing who love me and friends of more recent years who like me a lot but not the same.
To why100000 wondering if teens love her l believe if the rubber hits the road you would see that, behind all the drama they do. At least, l found as mine have left the teens l have experienced great love from mine even though, obviously, they mostly go on wiith their own lives.
They have surprised me at times.

tinyvulture Fri 22-Feb-19 07:45:47

I have thought about this a lot recently and I do think the only unconditional love tends to be (isn’t always) from parents to their children. On this basis I assume that my parents love me, though they don’t always show it brilliantly (quite controlling). But in the end they tend to come through.

Other than that, my daughter loves me; my boyfriend loves me in some sense I am sure, though it’s a relatively new relationship, but we were best friends for eons, so....; my brother, though he is not very emotional really; one of my cousins definitely; my ex would possibly claim to, but fuck knows. Re friends, I do tend to be quite intense and romantic about my friendships. There are I think four friends at the moment who I would actually claim to love. And I hope/think they love me. But experience tells me this changes over time too, and I probably won’t be closest to these four forever...... And ALL of these, other than my parents, are conditional, so I guess it is all love I could lose if I fucked up somehow.....

AJPTaylor Fri 22-Feb-19 07:47:10

Mum
Dh
3 daughters
Sister
Oldest friends x 2
That's enough for me!

vampirethriller Fri 22-Feb-19 07:51:24

The dog, two sisters, three brothers, parents from a distance, five good friends. I don't live near any of them but I could go to my friends in a crisis.
The dog is no use in a crisis, she hides behind me if she sees a big cat.

UnderHerEye Fri 22-Feb-19 07:55:06

In order:

My DC (DS&DD) & My DH
My DM&DF

That’s it!

I get on well with my in laws and I have a fairly wide range of people I know and am friendly with (result of being a military wife and moving round a lot!) And now I’m also friendly with school-run mums and work colleagues but in terms of people I could rely on if I needed help there is only 1, and that’s DH.

Morgan12 Fri 22-Feb-19 07:56:09

DH, DS and DD. My mum. A few aunties uncles grandparents and cousins. A handful of friends.

CripsSandwiches Fri 22-Feb-19 07:58:01

My DD
My DH (at least most of the time)
My mum does in theory but not really in person
I think my dbro but he doesn't like me
My cat I think but as long as she has someone I don't think she'd mind if she never saw me again.

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