Sorry if this sounds like a rant but I'm sick to the back teeth of being lied to in every relationship I try to get off the ground.
I always thought I was lucky to have a lovely husband like mine - then discovered he was a lying shitbag who was trying to find fuckbuddies online. Next bf I caught out trying to get back with his ex. Then the same thing with the next one (his declarations of love to her almost broke me as I loved him more than I ever loved anyone).
11mths ago I met the sweetest, loveliest man you could imagine. We're a fantastic match but things moved very slowly. Two days ago I discovered in the first few months we were together he was slagging me off to a female 'friend', telling her he wasn't happy but he'd take what he could get, was just happy to be finally getting some sex - not enough, but at least it's something. He told her I was convenient and ok to see when he felt like it and then to not bother seeing when he couldn't be bothered. Said it wasn't progressing to a relationship at all.
What shocked me was the difference in the messages he was sending me at the same time. Telling me how wonderful every minute with me was, he'd never met anyone like me etc etc. I 100% wouldn't have had him down for a bullshitter and he's not blokey or the type that shags anything that moves. He comes across as a genuinely sweet man.
We go on holiday together next week and I've just paid him my half so I'll be damned if I'm losing my hard earned money. I'm kinda formulating a plan to bring his behaviour up with him when we get back and tell him I've seen the messages he sent this girl. They clearly either have had some sort of relationship in the past or want to fuck each other. She comes across as needy and desperate for attention in the texts and brings up sex a lot unnecessarily. It seems to me as if she wants a back up for when she dumps her long-suffering bf.
I don't know whether this behaviour should be forgivable as it was quite early on in the relationship. She last messaged him around 5mths ago looking for attention and he ignored her. But I suppose they could be messaging elsewhere and they're Facebook friends too.
He tells me he's genuinely happy and always has been (last bit is clearly a lie). He certainly seems happy with me but it did take him an awfully long time to declare his love for me.
Are all men lying shits? Or am I just unlucky?
Surely I deserve to find someone who can act like a decent human being ....
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AIBU to think that I deserve not to be lied to by every bastard out there?
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Doormat247 · 21/02/2019 23:36
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