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My DH is a knob

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PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:39:19

DH lives away during the week and comes home every weekend. EOW he brings his DDs who are 12 and 14. He is about 2.5 hours away.

A few weeks ago I had a week off and the day he was coming home I went out for lunch/drinks with a friend. Knowing I wouldn’t be around to have a meal ready for DH and DSDs arrival I put a meal in the slow cooker before I left.

Today he is coming home a day early with his DDs as it is half term.

Unfortunately I came down with a flu bug last night (I wouldn’t say actual flu but felling like total shit, aching, shivering, horrid sore throat, no energy) and have been off work today and spent the day in bed.

I texted DH and said you are going to need to sort out a meal. There is him, his DDs, me and my 16 yr old son.

He phones on the way home and says can you order a takeaway 15 minutes before we all get home?

I have no cash (if it gets here early) and just feel really pissed off that he I am unwell yet still need to be involved in everyone’s dinner. Why can’t he just buy some food on his way home and cook it for us all? Even if it’s bloody microwave meals.


Qsandmore Thu 21-Feb-19 18:40:47

Did you say “no phone and order it just before you get here/stop off”?

PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:42:27

Yes and he hung up on me hmm

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon Thu 21-Feb-19 18:42:54

Does he expect a red carpet out also??

PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:43:18

And I said can’t you just bring a takeaway with you rather than you giving me your order and having to worry about timing it and them arriving before you.

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup Thu 21-Feb-19 18:43:19

What did you say when he asked? Surely your response was no I'm in bed feeling like shit.

PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:43:42


Probably grin

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Thu 21-Feb-19 18:43:51

In the time you typed that out, you could have done an uber eats (or Just Eats) order, a paid by card and gone back to bed.

PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:44:00

Yeah it was.

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup Thu 21-Feb-19 18:44:29

Sorry, x-post.

I'd be more pissed off about being hung up on than anything else tbh. Is he always a knob? Is life better while he's away?

PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:44:48


We don’t have Uber order here - and why should I have to?

HollowTalk Thu 21-Feb-19 18:44:57

When he's away, does he cook for himself?

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira Thu 21-Feb-19 18:45:45

@PlainSpeakingStraightTalking what’s stopping one of his teenage daughters from doing that while he drives?

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup Thu 21-Feb-19 18:45:55

@plainspeaking but why should she have to, and it could have arrived before DH which would mean her dragging herself out of bed to answer the door.

He's presumably a grown up, he can sort dinner.

LuckyLou7 Thu 21-Feb-19 18:46:02

Hopefully it's because he doesn't realise how rubbish you're feeling. Anyway part of the fun for the kids will be deciding which takeaway to go for. Let him sort it out when he gets home. Stop in bed and feel better soon.

Lollypop701 Thu 21-Feb-19 18:46:27

Yanbu. He’s knows you are ill, he’s capable of sorting it out. It’s just usually your job so he can’t be bothered. Go to bed and ignore

Pumpkintopf Thu 21-Feb-19 18:46:27

Yeah it would have been nice if he'd just dealt with it rather than trying to drag you into the arrangements. Annoying.

Geminijes Thu 21-Feb-19 18:46:39

It's not rocket science to order a takeaway. So why can't you?

PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:46:59

No he can only have a microwave in his room so I freeeze meals for him which he takes back.

He can cook though - I have taught him to and he does it with his daughters as do I.

emilybrontescorsett Thu 21-Feb-19 18:47:21

No he should ring himself.
My ex was like this. He could never cook a meal without having to involve me.
Every single time.
Belinda, can you pass me the tin of x.
Belinda can you peel the potatoes.
Belinda could you make the gravy.
He could never just do it.

Tomtontom Thu 21-Feb-19 18:47:33

The quickest way to get the takeaway would be you calling. If he picks one up he needs to stop to make the call and stop to collect it. The takeaway isn't going to arrive within fifteen minutes so not having cash is a non issue.

Get over yourself.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Thu 21-Feb-19 18:48:10

Because he's driving ? just a guess! I've been in a relationship with name calling and petty point scoring so I'm not best placed to advise really

PooleySpooley Thu 21-Feb-19 18:48:17

Yeah it’s just not wanting to be dragged into the arrangements exactly.

I am never ill.

Motherofcreek Thu 21-Feb-19 18:48:27

DH is on my last nerve and he knows it.

Sorry your feeling shit flowers

AngelsSins Thu 21-Feb-19 18:48:36

He seems to think you’re staff. I’d stop cooking for him altogether as he clearly doesn’t appreciate it.

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