I will try to give a good idea of what’s happening, without writing an essay, but no promises...
AIBU?
I am heavily pregnant (38 weeks,4 days) and am really struggling to keep up with things, around the house, taking my 3 year old to nursery, making dinner, seeing friends etc.
My partner works 50-60 hours a week so he really can’t help much, but does what he can.
We have arranged for MIL to look after DD when we have to rush off to give birth. We really appreciate this, even though there are other people that we would prefer to play this role, but we offered her this to make her feel a bit more included.
Since my partner and I have been together, she has always been one to call a lot, mainly to waste some time in my opinion. (Never really asks how we are)
Anyway... The past 2 days she has called me various times a day, each call lasting around an hour or so, totalling about 3 or 4 hours a day. (She doesn’t work)
I would understand if she was calling to check up on the pregnancy, although she has been told that she will be first point of call when anything does happen, but it’s not. All she talks about is how wonderful her DD’s children are, never considers our daughter.
I honestly don’t want to hear it, and even if I did, I have got too much to do and keep up on before DC arrives. Today was the final straw.
MIL FaceTime called this morning which I did not answer as I was getting DD dressed. Within 2 minutes she tried again, this time normal call.
Once I got a spare moment, I did reply to her, saying it would ‘only be a quick call as I’m getting on’
40 minutes later, still on the phone, my shopping was delivered. I had to raise my voice over hers and say that I needed to answer the door and that ‘I will call you back LATER’.
She gave me 7 minutes. 7 MINUTES!! Before she was calling me back. I was barely able to unpack the shopping, let alone put it away.
Talked about the same stuff as in the first phone call, for about another 15 minutes or so, and only finished because she had another call to answer.
I just had a good cry to my partner.
I asked him to text her and ask her nicely if she wouldn’t mind not calling so much. I asked him to do it as I suffer with anxiety and find it hard to do things like that. Plus seeing as it’s his mother, she may have taken it better.
How wrong we were...
Basically what has happened is she has taken it the wrong way. Partner’s text simply said ‘Could you please not call as much’
AS MUCH!!
Her reply was that our numbers have now been deleted, we can all F* Off, she is not looking after DD while we go to the hospital, and basically doesn’t care about seeing the new grandchild.
Has this request been blown out of proportion? Or are we being too harsh?
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AIBU for not wanting to talk on the phone all day?
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LauraJade0308 · 19/02/2019 21:14
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