To feel so hurt by this?

gototown · 2019-02-19 16:31:41

So me and my DH have 2 children together 10 & 3, we are happily married, I'm a SAHM he earns a decent salary so we are ok for money and things are generally pretty good at the moment. Anyway in October me and DH decided I should get my coil out and we would try for another baby, we were in no rush so just decided to see how it went. We've spoken about it a few times in the last few months all positive stuff just general chat, even spoken about it to his mum and sister, he even told them he would like a girl. Of course we've had the odd 'oh god could we really handle 3' moment but neither of us has ever said that I should go back on contraception and stop trying. Each month when I know I will be ovulating I say to him I am ovulating this week just so you know if we do have sex this week there's a chance I'll end up pregnant. It's never put him off and he never 'pulls out' if you get what I mean, sorry to be crude! Anyway this morning I took a pregnancy test and it was positive, I was really excited and couldn't wait till he got home to tell him so I sent him the pic of the pregnancy test and said guess what.... his reply was 'oh.. what are you going to do' I was gobsmacked and asked him what he meant by that and he replied 'well you know what I mean, do you want it?'. I replied with 'well I was excited so yes but from your responses I feel like you don't want it and if that's the case then I wouldn't want to go ahead with it. I also told him I thought he was being selfish and horrible and asked why he agreed to me having a coil out if he didn't want me to get pregnant and his reply was simply 'there's no need for this, I'm tired'....... I've not even replied to that because I'm just speechless at how he's being. Now maybe this is me being over sensitive but it's really upset me, i feel awful now I mean what the hell kind of reaction is that from a husband who's wife has just told him she's pregnant with a planned baby. I feel like that's the sort of response I'd expect if we were a pair of teenagers who'd been caught out. Not a married couple. I feel so deflated and just not excited at all now. AIBU?

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