I'm not BU but I wanted a rant.
My friend is having an important party in a few weeks. It's a surprise, organised by her friends, she doesn't know. The guest list is small/medium (about 15 people) I don't know any of them. There are 5 of us main organisers, everyone else is just a guest.
I offered to find and book the accommodation. I asked if I paid the overall cost (over 1.5k!) total upfront, would people please pay me back their share within 2 weeks as this was a lot of money, obviously. No issues, everyone agreed. Individual shares worked out to £150 which everyone knew in advance and had agreed to.
Predictably, once I had paid, a small minority of these people paid me back within a day or so, everyone else had to be nudged. Now we're a week or so away from the party and there's just one person who hasn't paid me back - one of the other 5 organisers. He owes me the full £150, so not like he's going to have it in his walllet when we meet in a week. I've sent him messages as part of the group, private messages and tagged him thinking it will shame him if others see he's the only one not to have paid me back. It's like he's a ghost, never responds.
This man is an adult professional and someone who I and the others will be seeing in a week. He is a good friend of our mutual friend who I trust completely, which is why I offered. I can get by without the 150 so it's not like I've made a mistake I can't afford, but I'm angry at his lack of communication. I have been polite in all my messages and given plenty of notice and waited between each message. If he had contacted me beforehand to say he was having a tight month and could he pay later then I would have been fine. Now I'm going to a party where I have a very negative impression of him, will struggle not to say something to his face if he hasn't paid by then, and will be outnumbered as he knows more people than I do there.
Potentially what was meant to be a lovely surprise party for my friend where we could all relax and have fun will be slightly soured for me by this man! I have messaged again today, but as he hasn't even read the message I left a few days ago I'm not holding out hope.
Argh! I'm so annoyed as I know if it was me and I owed a stranger this money I'd have paid it straight away! Certainly wouldn't have ignored 2 group posts and 2 individual messages for weeks and weeks.
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If you owe strangers money you pay if back as soon as you can?!
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Jimjamjools · 19/02/2019 16:17
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