I’m a stepmum to two teenagers. One is easy to get on with, the other not so. I have a wonderful relationship with one, loads of love, the other who is treated identically I have big problems with.
They stay with us regularly and EOW. I struggle a lot. DH is not supportive of my struggles and, bizarrely, loves to shout at me when they’re around in the full knowledge that one of them will feed it back to her mum which he knows I hate (the feeding back not the mum). I know this because she has an open Facebook profile and is very vocal about how much she hates her ex and has been known to say she’s pleased when we row.
Tonight I was left alone with DSD and I asked her if she wanted to make tea with me, she ignored me walked away and closed her bedroom door. She came out an hour later when DH returned. Unless you know how nasty a 15yr old can be this could sound a bit lame.
I’ve been a little unwell and was upset. He started to shout at me saying I was expecting too much.
Was I? Should I keep on trying or just go out when they’re with us?
I left the house and am currently in my car wondering what the hell to do.
For context, I’ve been in their lives for five years. I met DH two years after he split from their mum. We have a great relationship usually, it only gets like this when we have problems with DSD.
Please don’t be too harsh as I’m a step mum, I do try really hard and I have mild MH issues.
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Was I expecting too much from DSD?
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Beachside123 · 15/02/2019 19:53
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