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To think this is a really fucking weird thing to do?

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SummersB Fri 15-Feb-19 06:00:51

Brought a cake into work the other day - Banana & Blueberry, it was bloody lovely!
One of my colleagues asked me where I had the recipe from and I told her the author. I’ve previously made this before and have shared the recipe with a few of my colleagues, but in the interest of full disclosure I had no intention of sharing it with this particular one because to be honest I can’t stand her (she is a higher banding - band 6 nursing staff - and due to a massive chip in her shoulder she makes junior staff’s working life a misery by being patronising and belittling at every opportunity and is therefore really unpleasant to work with).
Another colleague just told me that a few days after I had brought my cake in she came into work with exactly the same cake, obviously having google searched the recipe and attempted to recreate it. We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit as she’d burnt it and managed to make it really dry. But am I right in thinking that’s a really odd thing to do? Who tastes a cake their workmate baked, goes home, looks the recipe up online and comes in two days later saying “ta-da, look, you know the cake you made the other day - well I could have made any other cake in the world but I’ve decided to look it up and make exactly the same one and bring in to work too”? Or is it just me?

hiddeneverything Fri 15-Feb-19 06:50:19

Yes it's weird of her, especially in the circumstances you describe x

Belenus Fri 15-Feb-19 06:51:18

Depends on the context. It's one of those things that could be part of a pattern of competitiveness, or could be a colleague baking a cake and bringing it into work.

I've worked in offices in which everyone brings cake or other food in with some frequency so it would just have been another cake. And if it was that bad and obviously burned, I doubt she's being competitive. I ask people for recipes or just guess and recreate them quite often. It's good to get different ideas for things.

Jenasaurus Fri 15-Feb-19 06:52:35

if its this cake then I understand why she wanted to make it, its lovely. be nice to her though she wants to be part of the team, she brought it in to share with you and you bitched about it, that's mean,

www.mumsnet.com/food/recipe/2358-Blueberry-and-banana-cake

londonrach Fri 15-Feb-19 06:55:46

Op. its not strange at all. Tbh its more strange you didnt share the receipe.

You might want to see if mn deletes this as you sound very nasty in what you have written. If her cake was dry sounds like she might need abit of advice as your cake was so nice.

Interceptor999 Fri 15-Feb-19 06:59:10

It is just you, get a grip. biscuit

pinkunicorn20 Fri 15-Feb-19 06:59:38

Maybe she just liked the cake and wanted to have it again?
I guess you have a better idea of this person's motives as you know her but I wouldn't waste energy on thinking about it too much. Just secretly enjoy that yours was tastier smile

Mari50 Fri 15-Feb-19 07:01:37

We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit
You sound just lovely too.
Nice work environment all round I imagine.

junebirthdaygirl Fri 15-Feb-19 07:03:07

I find your attitude very mean and nasty. I would rather miss out on cake than work in a place where someone had such a nasty way of talking. Be the bigger person every time as its a far more attractive trait.

Bluntness100 Fri 15-Feb-19 07:04:55

You're being incredibly petty. It's a cake. Get a grip.

Holidayshopping Fri 15-Feb-19 07:05:40

I don’t actually think that’s weird-she clearly likes the recipe as she asked you for it. Bringing in cakes is clearly normal as you do it.

*Who tastes a cake their workmate baked, goes home, looks the recipe up online and comes in two days later saying “ta-da, look, you know the cake you made the other day - well I could have made any other cake in the world but I’ve decided to look it up and make exactly the same one and bring in to work too”?

Someone who really liked that cake? I’d take it as a compliment.

SavoyCabbage Fri 15-Feb-19 07:05:57

I don’t think it’s weird. You knew she wanted to have a go at it and she did. Then she brought it into work which must be fine as you’ve done it.

Of course she ‘went home and Googled it’. You wouldn’t give her the recipe and it’s 2019. That’s what people do. Google things they want to know. What did you want her to do? Peep though Nigella’s window until she caught her making it?

ivykaty44 Fri 15-Feb-19 07:08:57

You don’t like the woman so you’re going to make a point of not liking what she does...we all do this to a certain extent.

Drop it and move on, probably best to change your recipe for next time

sackrifice Fri 15-Feb-19 07:09:43

It is obvious she was trying to get one up on you.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions Fri 15-Feb-19 07:10:35

Ueah yeah so weird ..... sarcasm

I mean how weird some one asked for a receipe, then cook it themselves. I would have thought that that was the whole bloody reason she asked you for the receipe. Or did you think she just wanted to stare at it written on a piece of paper.

Also your receipe, its not, its james morton's. Its avalible to any one not just you. Do you have excl6suve distrubution

We had a bit of a laugh about it because apparently it was shit

Well aren't you and your colluage just lovely. Not.

Sorry the weirdest thing about this post is your attitude and behaviour that is fucking weird yes

Cazziebo Fri 15-Feb-19 07:12:24

Do you eat that many cakes at your work?!

Only weird thing here is your reaction and attitude. Would it hurt to be a bit nicer?

WFTisgoingoninmyhead Fri 15-Feb-19 07:13:50

I think you just don’t like her, no matter what she does!!

dashitauntagatha Fri 15-Feb-19 07:15:26

I don't understand the 'shared my recipe' bit.

But it's not your recipe? It's from a book! Not sure how you can be self congratulatory about not being precious about a recipe that isn't yours!!

Strange old world

CuppaSarah Fri 15-Feb-19 07:15:45

Did she say anything about it? Like that she was looking to improve and wanting con crit from people who had tried yours? Or mentioned she loves yours so much she'd already attempted her own?

If she just brought it in without saying anything it would be kind of odd.

lotusbell Fri 15-Feb-19 07:16:46

So, so petty. I'm.glad I don't work in places like that anymore, what a huge waste of energy!

grumiosmum Fri 15-Feb-19 07:20:40

This reminds me of an episode of This Country.

Not2BBs Fri 15-Feb-19 07:21:08

You and your friend just come across as horribly bitchy.

greendale17 Fri 15-Feb-19 07:22:16

*I can’t stand her (she is a higher banding - band 6 nursing staff - and due to a massive chip in her shoulder she makes junior staff’s working life a misery by being patronising and belittling at every opportunity and is therefore really unpleasant to work with).*

^This colleague sounds nasty

Pippa12 Fri 15-Feb-19 07:22:53

She enjoyed your cake (as did your colleagues!?) she made it and brought it in for you to all enjoy again...

You declined to give her the recipe (yet you give it freely to those you like)... laughed about her baking attempts with your colleagues, then came on mumsnet complaining about her actions and calling her not fit to burn as a person... yet she’s a nasty piece of work and a bully hmm

You need to “kill these people with kindness” not copy their behaviour. Your students must love working with your friendly team!!!

Rhinosaurus Fri 15-Feb-19 07:23:04

Sounds like someone is jealous of her being a higher grade.....

pictish Fri 15-Feb-19 07:23:25

Either way, this is not something that you should be concerning yourself with. If she wants to replicate a cake and bring it in, it’s no skin off your nose.

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