Hi everyone,
I feel bad even posting this as I love my parents dearly but I need to know AIBU?
Me and my DP are expecting our first baby in March, he's also my parents first grandchild. They have been really great throughout pregnancy, brought us lots of lovely bits, been supportive and I've even ask my DM to be a birth partner alongside DP (DP is happy with this too!)
The thing is, whenever they talk about our baby they always talk about it from their perspective! Things like:
- we can't wait to take him to the beach for the first time
- we're going to see him everyday
- he's OUR grandson (emphasis on the our)
When I talk about 'my son' my mum gets annoyed, she even said the other day 'just raise him exactly like we raised you and your sister' and they're annoyed because we've said they can't take him on holiday with them in October (he'll be 6.5 months).
My DP said he feels like he's an added extra in their eyes as they don't talk about him as my babies dad, they just talk about being his grandparents. They haven't asked DP how he feels about being a first time dad for example.
I know they don't mean to intentionally make us feel this way but I am getting worried, me and DP are creating our own family unit and I don't want it to come to blows when DS is here!
Any advice appreciate! Xx