My mom kicked me out - Do i still allow her to see her grandkids?!

[MommaBee97]

I lost my home a few months ago and had to move out, my mom insisted I moved in with her (eventhough I didn't want to I had to think of the kids!) I have a 4 year old and a 7 month old. Anyway, my Mom made my life hell being there! I was getting blamed for everything, being told I was lazy because I had no where to store our clothes so we were living out of suitcases. And we got into a massive argument! The argument wasn't really THAT bad. But she told me I had to leave. I had no where to go, I had to stay in a hotel, until I could find somewhere temporary. She never asked me whether I had anywhere to go, she never asked if the girls were okay. She hasn't even spoken to me besides telling me to get the rest of my things. Today my younger sister messaged to ask if my mom can have my girls over night this week, and to be honest, I don't want her to. She kicked me out with two young children and I had no where to go! AIBU if I don't allow her to see them for a few weeks? It's still raw, I'm still hurt/ angry. My children are just settling being at my partners parents and I think sending them to my Moms for the night is going to confuse them.

[FannyFifer]

She kicked you and your children out, I would cut contact completely.

[Burlea]

Cut contact, she has treated you and your children badly.

[Snowflakes1122]

I’ve been through similar. It’s hard to forgive even years later I’m hurt and upset.

Put you and the kids first. She’s made her bed by being so awful.

[Ribbonsonabox]

I'd say no.

[ShinyPinkLipgloss]

The day she threw you out is the day she lost the right to contact.

You do not need someone like that in you or your girls lives.

[7yo7yo]

Erm no!
She didn’t give a fuck when she kicked you all out why would you even think about it. Nasty woman!

[allthegoodusernameshavegone]

Really! Do you need to ask?

[Maelstrop]

I think she can jack right off, tbh.

[ellendegeneres]

Oh fuck no.

[Floralhousecoat]

She wants to play the doting granny. Your girls are not playthings to be enjoyed when she has previously shown no concern for their, and your, welfare. Tell her to get lost.

I can't believe mothers and grandmothers like this exist.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

She clearly doesn't care about her grandchildrens' well being if she potentially made them homeless.
Why should she have the pleasure of their company.

[Monday55]

Your mum is contacting you through your sister because she knows what she did was wrong.

I would cut contact without a doubt.

[mrcharlie]

Turn your back as she did to you.

I'm NC with my family...life is bliss compared to what it was.
No, I will NEVER forgive nor forget....not ever!!

[AnneLovesGilbert]

No way. She had her chance to support you and she blew it.

Are you staying at your in-laws with your children?

[abbsisspartacus]

Say hell no the woman is batshit crazy she could be wanting them for anything and cut her off

[tenbob]

She shouldn’t see you or your kids ever again

She clearly doesn’t care at all about any of you

[Youandwhosearmy]

No bleeding chance

[MrsElijahMikaelson1]

Nah-she gave up that chance, no more

[ChasedByBees]

She can’t even contact you directly about it? She’s not prepared to speak with you but wants your children overnight. I wouldn’t.

[altiara]

No way!

[lboogy]

What lead up to the argument?

[Godowneasy]

It's difficult for us to take a view on this either way without knowing what th argument was about.
It must have been serious for your mother to throw you and the young grandchildren out, especially as it was her that wanted you to go live with her in the first place.
Are your partner's parents going to let you stay with them for long? Are they your children's grandparents too?

[LittleMissPonsible]

Do you trust your mum? I don’t mean would she be nice to the children, I mean do you trust her to act in your stead when she has them?

I would suspect the answer to that is no, given that she threw them out too. If you don’t trust her then you can’t leave her with your most precious things.

[Singlenotsingle]

This is all very recent and she's made no attempt to apologise or make amends. She's probably annoyed and jealous because the dgc are living at your dp's parents.I wouldn't let her. Why should the dc and you suffer further upset and disruption? She'll have to do better than that .

[fargo123]

Like hell would she be seeing my kids again. Or me, for that matter.

She was happy to see her grandchildren (and child) literally out on the streets.

She'd be dead to me from now on.