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AIBU to not have a photo taken?

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ImNotYourToy Mon 11-Feb-19 15:40:21

I feel like a right cow.

We have a colleague who has started in my department. She's a lovely, kind and sensitive lady.

She said to me that her family wants to see who her friends look like at work and proceeded to get her phone camera up and try and take a photo of us both together.

I put up this defence mechanism immediately and said no, thank you! She said why? I said I do not like having photos taken. This is true. I do not have social media for this very reason and I only have pictures taken of me or with my family and friends.

AIBU here? You can call me a horrible cow if you want lol! I am asking for your opinions after all.

She looked a bit... heartbroken? blush

TulipsTulipsTulips Mon 11-Feb-19 15:41:30

I think you know the answer...

TheInvestigator Mon 11-Feb-19 15:42:39

That's so odd. Who's family go "what do your colleagues look like; get us some photos". It's just odd behaviour.

Taking group selfies once you are friends or on nights out is different, but this seems weird.

Dfg15 Mon 11-Feb-19 15:43:49

Def not unreasonable- i hate having my photo taken so wouldnt feel comfortable having one taken with someone I've just met.

WoahThereMama Mon 11-Feb-19 15:44:15

I don’t think you were BU at all. That sounds a bit odd and I wouldn’t have posed for a selfie either just so her family could see me

ImNotYourToy Mon 11-Feb-19 15:46:11

That's another reason why I refused.

I feel uncomfortable about the thought of people who I don't even know, looking at photos of me.

I'm glad that it is not just me that thinks this is weird. She's a lovely lady but I think she took it a bit too far lol.

Ohnonotuagain Mon 11-Feb-19 15:46:34

Her behaviour is extremely bizarre! I doubt her family care who she works with either.

HeathRobinson Mon 11-Feb-19 15:52:09

Bizarre is right. And intrusive.

punishmepunisher Mon 11-Feb-19 15:53:20

YANBU! Very weird thing to do.

JasonGideon Mon 11-Feb-19 15:58:50

Her behaviour seems a bit strange.

Aquamarine1029 Mon 11-Feb-19 15:59:21

I would keep my distance from her, honestly. Her lack of boundaries is frightening and she was grossly inappropriate to even ask for a picture like that. How utterly bizarre.

ALongHardWinter Mon 11-Feb-19 15:59:40

She sounds a bit odd,IMO. YANBU.

MrsJayy Mon 11-Feb-19 16:02:16

I think that is just weird ive never asked my Dds of photos of their workmates yanbu and I don't think im very photogenic so im never in photos either.

Brainfogmcfogface Mon 11-Feb-19 16:03:38

Eh?! That’s really weird. I’d have said no too.

MrsJayy Mon 11-Feb-19 16:03:52

Ach I didn't mean you were not photogenic i just meant i don't like my photo being taken.

punishmepunisher Mon 11-Feb-19 16:04:47

What kind of job is it OP?

SpeedyBojangles Mon 11-Feb-19 16:08:56

Yeah. She's weird. Not really appropriate workplace behaviour unless you're on a night out or something.

TaimaandRanyasBestFriend Mon 11-Feb-19 16:13:27

YANBU. I despise having my photo taken. I look shit. I'd have told her no, too. Weirdo.

sulflower Mon 11-Feb-19 16:14:14

That's a strange thing to ask, I would have no too. I read too many books about where that could lead to grin.

cantfindname Mon 11-Feb-19 16:14:24

Def NU. I HATE having my photo taken as I look even worse in photos than in real life. The only 2 photos of me in existence are one when I was 17 and riding in a competition (so more of the horse than of me) and one about ten years ago that OH took for himself (and no one else) I am totally phobic about it to the extent that when I needed a picture for a part time job I refused and didn't get the job. I shudder even thinking about it.

Mitzimaybe Mon 11-Feb-19 16:16:17

YANBU. Very odd thing to ask in the workplace and you have every right to say no. I haven't even had my official photo done at work yet

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Mon 11-Feb-19 16:16:58

OMG blonde woman, does he wear latex gloves all the tiem too ? is she called Maria?

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Mon 11-Feb-19 16:17:07


Fraying Mon 11-Feb-19 16:17:12

It's not UR to refuse a photo. But tbh I find it odd when people act like getting a photo taken is a huge drama.

CatandtheFiddle Mon 11-Feb-19 16:24:37


You're perfectly entitled not to be in such a photo. I wouldn't have wanted to be in such a photo either, and would have refused.

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