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Who was U here? Not my neighbour.

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AuntieCJ Mon 11-Feb-19 14:29:59

On my way back down the lane earlier I found my neighbour of a few doors up involved in a nasty sounding argument with a man. She has a large front garden with high fences and gates. A man had been trying to push a large barking dog into her garden. He'd opened the gate to do so. She'd seen him and rushed out to see what he was doing.

The dog had been running up to people and barking and running into the road, narrowly avoiding being run over. The man had caught it by the collar and was trying to put it into neighbour's garden. It's not her dog and she didn't want it in her garden, it was very big and barky and I don't blame her.

The man tried to insist saying the dog could cause an accident or attack someone because it was panicking. She said to take it to his own house and keep it there. He said his garden wasn't secure like hers. She said that if he left the dog there she'd let it out the moment he'd gone. He doesn't live near us but had stopped his car to try to help and didn't want to put it in his car.

All the time he was trying to push the gate and force the dog into the garden. By this time it was snarling and growling and it tried to bite him. He let it go and it ran off. Imagine if it had been trapped in neighbour's garden in that mood. It was U of him to try to do that, wasn't it? If I'd have found that big angry dog in my garden I'd have been frightened as was my neighbour.

CalmdownJanet Mon 11-Feb-19 14:32:42

Yep he sounds batshit! Neighbour was definitely not being unreasonable

HeathRobinson Mon 11-Feb-19 14:34:09


thecatneuterer Mon 11-Feb-19 14:35:30

It's a pity she didn't let him do that. Then the dog wardens could have come and got the dog. Now who knows where it is. She is of course within her rights to say no, but it would have been much better for the dog if she'd agreed and tried to help.

billybagpuss Mon 11-Feb-19 14:44:59

So it wasn't his dog either?

I think he was trying to do the right thing, the poor dog must have been petrified and I can see his logic, big secure garden where the dog and locals would be safe while he tries to find the owner. But you can't just shove a random dog into a random garden.

I'm not sure what I would have done in the circumstances

Travisandthemonkey Mon 11-Feb-19 14:52:46

Clearly he was trying to do the right thing. As someone else said. Her front garden is secure. They could have called a warden. It would have been over quickly and your neighbour would have done something positive.
So unless the dog was likely to break through her front door and murder her children. I think she was being one of those “it’s not my dog it’s not my problem”
Which is obviously her right. But it’s not that great

AuntieCJ Mon 11-Feb-19 14:58:50

I think she was afraid of being trapped in her house. Our dog warden isn't known for her speed. The man had made it his business, fair enough. But he had no right to make it anyone else's business. He should have dealt with it himself.

On its hind legs the dog would have dwarfed my neighbour.

Ihaveabloodyheadache Mon 11-Feb-19 14:59:24

Well if he'd done that to my large secure garden there would have been an almighty scrap when I let my dogs out for a wander round the garden. I'd have been furious.

HeathRobinson Mon 11-Feb-19 15:01:07

So the man could have called the dog warden himself and waited for her, but instead tried to make it someone else's job while he left in his car?

AguerosAngel Mon 11-Feb-19 15:03:32

No way would I have allowed that (I don’t like dogs I have to admit) the man was dealing with it, he can’t just dump the dog on someone else!

Your neighbour was definitely NBU!!

arethereanyleftatall Mon 11-Feb-19 15:04:20

Well, he tried to do a nice thing. She could have too. I would have let it stay in my garden. Dogs running about all over the road can cause a serious accident, so it's a neighbourly thing to do.

AryaStarkWolf Mon 11-Feb-19 15:05:56

Of course the man was in the wrong, if he wanted to help the dog that's fine, put it in his car until the warden came.

Oysterbabe Mon 11-Feb-19 15:06:43

I'd have let him put the dog in my garden tbh.

RandomMess Mon 11-Feb-19 15:06:53

He tried to do the right thing!!! Having had to stop huge horses that were loose he was probably a bit scared and panicking himself.

BartonHollow Mon 11-Feb-19 15:07:24

he tried to do a nice thing

Bollocks, he tried to force taking responsibility for a dangerous animal onto a woman and then leave her to it because she has a nice garden.

Sethos Mon 11-Feb-19 15:08:54

They both were, but I think the woman was more unreasonable.

HoneysuckIejasmine Mon 11-Feb-19 15:10:21

I'd have let him too.

2019Dancerz Mon 11-Feb-19 15:11:17

What did you do to help OP? I wonder if the dog has now been killed, or caused a car crash or bitten someone.
Classic NIMBY

CocoDeMoll Mon 11-Feb-19 15:14:29

Blimey, there’s no way I’d want a dangerous beast let loose in my not a dog person to be fair. Poor neighbour!

AuntieCJ Mon 11-Feb-19 15:16:02

I chimed in on her behalf, Dancerz. I told him he couldn't force the dog into my neighbour's garden and he needed to take care of it himself, if he was so concerned.

I wasn't going to offer my garden. It was angry and snarling and tried to bite the man. I'm not a crazy person, I wasn't going to risk being attacked.

AryaStarkWolf Mon 11-Feb-19 15:16:12

Blimey, there’s no way I’d want a dangerous beast let loose in my not a dog person to be fair. Poor neighbour!

Me neither, all these good Samaritans eh? Why didn't the guy put the dog in his car till the dog warden came?

KittyLover91 Mon 11-Feb-19 15:16:35

By the sounds of it he didn't even ask for the neighbours permission!

Why should she have taken the dog into her garden? What is she was afraid of dogs??

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue Mon 11-Feb-19 15:17:36

The man was being unreasonable and wrong. If he wants to play the knight in shining armour fine, but at least finish the job.

I would also have let the dog out if someone tried to put it in my garden.

GrouchyKiwi Mon 11-Feb-19 15:18:44

How did the man know she didn't have children or her own dog or some other pet that used her secure garden? He was being unreasonable.

Booboostwo Mon 11-Feb-19 15:19:47

I've collected a few loose dogs and never once has it occurred to me to pop them in someone else's garden!

I've rung numbers on collars, taken them to the vets, kept them at my place, called the dog warden, etc. but never shut them into an unsuspecting person's garden!

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