I've left 2 relationships that have lasted over 2 years each. One the guy cheated on me, and the other we just weren't right for each other. The first the breakup was easy and I almost enjoyed watching him cry (he slept with my friend) and the second was fine because as much as he wanted to work things out, I had just fallen out of love and didn't want to be with him anymore.
This time round, my current partner is mean. He has a short fuse and swears a lot. He gets angry at little things and I tread on eggshells around him.
I have started a few threads about this. People think it's abuse. I'm not entirely convinced but I think I may just be conditioned to think that he has no idea how poor his behaviour is and he genuinely thinks I'm just being sensitive. It's been cathartic to say the least to finally admit all of this. Sorry for the large number of threads however if it helps me leave this relationship and relieve my guilt over it then I will keep posting!
I have a 3.5 month old DS.
Why is it so hard to leave someone who you know you don't love, who you know doesn't love you and takes you for granted? Maybe because his DS is involved? I want to move away, and feel incredibly guilty for it. He loves his DS. The idea of it is eating me alive.
Why do we do it to ourselves? I feel like my guilt is making me slightly neurotic.
I've been trying to get in touch with women's aid to get my head around the word 'abuse'.
Anyone been in a similar situation?
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to think it's harder to leave someone when they genuinely don't know how mean they are?
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CarlosCarlos · 11/02/2019 10:44
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