Posted here for traffic as I’m so annoyed..
Me and my DP have been together for 8 years and have DC1 on the way, I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant. I’m 27 and he’s 31. We both have good jobs, a mortgage etc but aren’t married yet (joint decision)
We were TTC to conceive for around a year before I fell pregnant. We were both over the moon. Since I’ve found out I’ve ovbs given up smoking, drinking and limit my caffeine intake etc. Before this we both used to enjoy going out with friends and drinking on weekends as our friendship circles merged years ago, I still attend some of these events but drive and tend to leave after an hour or so. I’ve suffered with HG throughout this pregnancy so already feel vulnerable as I’ve not been able to be as independent as I was and it’s effected work, my social life etc because I’ve been so poorly.
Since I’ve found out my DP has been out drinking every weekend particularly this month and over Christmas. He’s only once managed to come home at a sensible time and that is due to a taxi being booked at 12pm with his friends otherwise it would have cost him a fortune to come home as it was out of the area. Once. I’m awake now waiting for him to stagger in and literally so annoyed laid here. I’ve text and rang him and he’s drunkenly asked me to pick him up which quite frankly I’ve told him to fuck off. Now I’m not a control freak and encourage him to go out and meet up with friends etc however, AIBU for wanting him to come home at a sensible time? I.e when the pubs close? He’s at our friends house where everyone tends to go after a night out, I feel like I’ve massively matured as I can’t ever imagine myself falling into that cycle again and coming home at silly o’clock even if he was looking after DC. I worry he won’t have a problem as he’s still doing it now, it’s 5am fgs I dropped him off at 8pm.
I feel like he’s taking the complete piss out of me. I’ve told him so many times and it’s always the same response “I’ll stop drinking at the end of Feb” “I’ll stop smoking before Christmas/my birthday/Feb” it’s never I’m sorry for being an arsehole or at least telling you I’m staying out longer. Tonight he told he was having a few drinks and will be home at a reasonable time. I’m shocked he’s behaving like this as he’s been wanting children for years and it was me holding back until I had an established career and something I could go back to easily once my mat leave finished. Thankfully I have.!
I’m thinking of telling him bluntly that this is the end to this stupid teenage behaviour he’s pulling. I’m still happy for him to go out with friends but must be home by 1am at the latest? I feel like I’m being controlling but I’m at my wits end. What if something happened! I’m 31 weeks and worried something might happen. AIBU?
Sorry for the rant but I’m a raging, hormonal pregnant lady at the moment ready to explode - which I don’t want to. He’s definitely in the spare bedroom tonight and best thing he’s apparently got work tomorrow at 1pm
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31 weeks pregnant and drunken DP again
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NC2737381 · 10/02/2019 05:17
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