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AIBU?

To not wake DH's friend up?

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Greywalls12 · 09/02/2019 07:49

Some people may remember my previous thread, DH's friend staying with us for two weeks as he's homeless, he'll be leaving on Tuesday.

He manages to sleep through his alarms, three have gone off this morning and he's still not up.
DH left early for a day out with mates this morning and has been waking him up everyday since he's stayed here, which i have outright refused to do.

So DH's friend has some overtime with another friend today, and he'll be taking the other friend there. The other friend can't get there without DH's friend who is staying with us as he can't drive. So if DH's friend doesn't get up, the other friend won't be able to work today.

DH asked if i would wake his friend up but i refused, which he was completely fine with and agrees it's not my responsibility.

But now the other friend has messaged me asking if i can please get him up because they need to leave!!

AIBU to say no or just ignore the message?

He's an adult and needs to learn the consequences of not getting up for work surely? But other friend won't be able to work today if I don't, and he's also expecting a baby so I feel bad if I don't because it's not his fault this lazy fucker can't get out of bed.

And he'll be leaving on Tuesday regardless of whether he has any money if anyone's wondering

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ATowelAndAPotato · 09/02/2019 07:50

Just wake him up.

Trumpton · 09/02/2019 07:51

Get him up as you have been asked nicely by his colleague . Be the bigger person here ( and keep counting down the days )
Saucepan lid and a wooden spoon works well !

Joopy · 09/02/2019 07:52

Wake him up

cricketmum84 · 09/02/2019 07:52

Yeah just go and wake him up. I sometimes hit alarm off instead of snooze and end up sleeping in. It's not the end of the world for you to go wake him.

Greywalls12 · 09/02/2019 07:52

But he's an adult, and should be perfectly capable of getting himself up in the mornings?

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BifsWif · 09/02/2019 07:53

For gods sake just wake him up!

Fair enough if it was just him but you’re taking away another persons overtime wage.

You’re awake anyway, stop being petty and wake the man up. He’s going on Thursday, it’s not like you’ll have to do it forever.

Justanotheruser01 · 09/02/2019 07:54

Sorry i know it's not your job but it's called doing a kindness, he may have a health problem that puts him so deeply asleep. Would it hurt to shout steeeeeve at the top of your voice?!

museumum · 09/02/2019 07:54

Id do it for the other friend who asked nicely.

BifsWif · 09/02/2019 07:54

But he’s clearly not is he? He’s set alarms, they haven’t woken him up. What do you suggest he does?

JonSlow · 09/02/2019 07:55

Just wake him. He’ll be out of your hair in a couple of days. And this way, he’s out the house all day too.

GlassSuppers · 09/02/2019 07:55

Grow up and wake him up.

Greywalls12 · 09/02/2019 07:56

Shouting 'steve' wouldn't work, DH tried but he has to physically go in and shake him for him to get up. And keep doing it until he's wake, it's not a simple 'wake up steve You're late for work'

No medical conditions btw, he's told me he's seen someone about it and there isn't anything wrong!

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humblesims · 09/02/2019 07:56

I agree. You're gonna have to wake him up.

Greywalls12 · 09/02/2019 07:57

Okay okay, I'm waking him up now!

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BifsWif · 09/02/2019 07:57

Ahh good! Well done Op!

JenniferJareau · 09/02/2019 07:58

For gods sake just wake him up!

^^ This

TheseThingsAreFunAndFunIsGood · 09/02/2019 07:58

Just wake him up! It's petty not to.

Modestandatinybitsexy · 09/02/2019 07:58

If you don't want to touch him then bang saucepan lids or pour water on him. Drastic but it's the only things that work with my db with the same issue.

It would be petty of you not to wake him.

Modestandatinybitsexy · 09/02/2019 07:58

Cross post. Good luck

gettingtherequickly · 09/02/2019 07:58

Bless you, I know it's a pain, but you've done the right thing.

Roll on Tuesday! (And at least he's out of your hair today).

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Bangingdoors · 09/02/2019 07:59

Wake him up, its not a big deal. I wonder why you're willing to give this so much head space and time but not willing to take the few minutes it would take to wake him?

The world would be a lot nicer place for people to live in if kindness was the norm.

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JenniferJareau · 09/02/2019 07:59

Sorry cross post op

dancemom · 09/02/2019 07:59

Yes it's not your responsibility

Yes a grown adult should be able to get themselves up

But you were asked nicely by your DH and by other friend

So do it for them and not sleepy friend

Lindy2 · 09/02/2019 07:59

Wake him up.
It will only take a minute to do. It means he goes to work and is out of the house and the other friend can go to work too.
It's kind that you have let him stay but it would be really mean not to wake him this morning, even though I appreciate you are probably pretty fed up with him.

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