to be pi**ed off with DD's new school for not visiting her playgroup like they said they would??

[Flumpybumpy]

DD starts school in Sept and I was advised that a teaching assistant would go to her playschool and meet her, go through a her palyschool Surestart book and observe her there. Her playschool is only open for another week before closing for summer hols so i called teh school as no-one had been out and was told that as she is the only child from the PS going the this particular school they won't be sending anyone out as they don't have time!!!

I was fuming, why should my DD not get the same treatment as everyone else just because they can't organise their time better.

I am so mad and we have a school visit tomorrow, might just say something to the Head.

FB x

[Lizzylou]

Yes, I would. They should have said something from the start if it wasn't manageable, instead of leaving you out in the cold.

[fannyannie]

I'd definitely say something - DS1 was the only child from his nursery (well the morning sessions - there was a little boy from the afternoons too) going to his current school but they managed to send someone out for BOTH children (obviously as different times of day.

[LIZS]

I think you're overreacting tbh. I bet she won't be the only one (allow for sickness, holidays etc) and she gets to go and visit herself anyway (perhaps take the "book" with her). They didn't do this for dd (we were living abroad) and never felt it was an oversight.

[duchesse]

Why don't you ring the school and ask if she can visit?

I'm surprised that you are expecting the school to visit the playgroup at all. Can't see what the point would be. Surely it's more important that your child knows about her future school than that her future school knows about her playgroup? Unless she has special needs that the TA might need to discuss with the playgroup leaders? THe school will get all the documentation they need about her from the playgroup (you may be trusted with her booklet though, don't know how it works in your area).

Good luck to your daughter (and to you- it's a bid deal for the parents as well!) on her transition to big school.

[moopymoo]

I understand that you are a bit annoyed that you werent informed but , tbh, i have never heard of a school doing this. take her in to have a look (if you havent already) much more helpful for her than being visited by somebody who would be (to her) jsut a random person.

[Flumpybumpy]

It's more that fact they DD would know have a familiar face at the new school. Th TA's spend a whole seesion at the PS getting to know teh children so they have some-one familiar when tehy go.

The visit tomorrow will help, I am just pissed off tehy hadn't told me and my DD is being missed out because they hadn't organised themselves better.

I know she will settle in okay, she is a friendly and outgoing little girl but she won't know anyone is first few days and seeing a person she had already met would have been better for her.

FB x

[fannyannie]

"tbh, i have never heard of a school doing this"

Most of the primary and infant schools in our area do this.

[duchesse]

I'm concerned that you are feeling aggrieved about her school already, and she hasn't even started yet. Are you happy with the school she will be going to? As at teacher I have to say that in the main, happy trusting parents make for happy confident well-adjusted pupils. If you have residual anxiety about her going to this school, she will pick up on this, and you will find yourself being unsupportive of the school at a time when your daughter really really needs you and the school to be singing from the same hymn sheet. If you are going to the school tomorrow, I would advise that you try to clear up this lingering resentment then, by finding out why they were not able to do what they said they would.

Also, do not worry too much about your little one. Children are remarkably resilient and she will be helped to settle in quickly by the staff, and by you. But you have to feel confident that this is right, and be supportive of the teaching staff.

[moopymoo]

well here the whole of the palygroup visits the school, and they do have links with someone coming in from the school at different times through the year, but only to certain defined ' feeder' groups.and not to one child. so maybe never was overstating. my ds knew nobody at all when he started at his school we had moved over the holidays, he was fine. (i was a wreck though..)

[littleolwinedrinkerme]

My DD was the only one from her nursery going to her school so they also said they were unable to visit in the end but did phone and speak at length to her group leader. The reception teacher also did a home visit which my DD got far more out of. No school visits though, however the whole communication to new parents or rather the total complete lack of is a totally different thread! (eg did not even know her start date until mid August......) .

Go tomorrow and really enjoy this next chapter in your daughters life!