What I mean is, I was just watching Loose Women (I know, I know) and they were talking about how women just get on with stuff, and I think one of them said her mother was in labour for 6 hours but carried on making her husband's tea or sommat before doing anything about it. And you also hear about people who know that they're really ill, or having a hard time, but they "just get on with it" and never complain. Sometimes you find out after someone's died that they must have really struggled and never said a word.
So, I'm not saying that it's a bad thing per se. What troubles me is that in my family, getting on with it is seen as a very admirable quality. And it can be. I certainly don't advocate unwarranted whining. However, there are times, where you need a little help and I don't think that it's so wrong to ask. But I get the impression that to admit you're struggling is weak and I don't think that's right. As I say, in my family if someone is struggling the attitude is that you should just pull your socks up and sort yourself out, or the problem is brushed under the carpet. Personally I'd rather know if someone close to me was struggling so that I could help. There's a time and a place to be noble.
Sorry, that's turned into a lengthier rant than I planned. Anyone else know what I mean?
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bohemianbint · 03/07/2007 13:12
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