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AIBU?

To expect my boyfriend to drive me home?

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ritabe · 24/01/2019 08:22

I've been seeing him for 4 months now.
Last Saturday night I stayed at his house (he lives about 30 mins away and I always get the train as it's quick and the station is only a few mins from his house.
Went over ordered food etc and went to bed.
Around 1am I woke up feeling sick and from 1am was vomiting every 10 mins then the stomach pains started,I was dripping in sweat and nearly passed out in the bathroom.
This continued all night and didn't sleep a wink.
It got to 10am and I said there's no way I can get on the train like this (it's a 2 carriage train and it's always full the time it gets to his station)
He said "what you gonna do then?"
I said I don't know (his car is sat on the drive here,thinking he would offer to drive me home)
He didn't so I had to get a taxi and sit in the back of the taxi with a carrier bag incase I vomited.
Luckily I didn't..it was the longest journey ever.
Aibu to think he should have drove me home?

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Ragevibration · 24/01/2019 08:24

YANBU. He has shown how strong his feelings are for you. Lest you found out 4 months in. LTB.

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Nothininmenoggin · 24/01/2019 08:24

Bloody hell I think that act if kindness right there is enough to make you think twice about this guyConfused

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Wintersnowdrop · 24/01/2019 08:24

Oh course he should have offered but I would have asked him for a lift. And I’d get rid now too. Who needs a selfish bastard like that in their life?!

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Lou573 · 24/01/2019 08:25

He doesn’t sound like a very nice boyfriend OP.

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LovingLola · 24/01/2019 08:25

No. You are not unreasonable to think that. The only mitigating factor I can think of is that he drank a lot on Saturday night and would have been over the limit for driving on Sunday. In which case I'd expect him to have said that to you and offered to take you home later in the day.
If that is not the case then I would be considering whether or not I'd want to stay in the relationship.

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Iloveacurry · 24/01/2019 08:26

Well he’s shown his true colours. Wouldn’t bother with him again.

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Sarahjconnor · 24/01/2019 08:26

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Fairylea · 24/01/2019 08:30

Wow. What a complete arse!

Dump and run.

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MeetJoeTurquoise · 24/01/2019 08:30

I wouldn't be seeing him again. Who behaves like that!

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WendyImhome · 24/01/2019 08:31

Nasty bastard. I agree with the above...I'd leave now. It's not even that he's your boyfriend, I would do this for a friend if they were ill, and one I wasn't even close to at that!

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RedPandaMama · 24/01/2019 08:32

My very first LTB

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Bluntness100 · 24/01/2019 08:32

Wow, is there mitigating circumstances, as in did he have somewhere to go that he really needed to go to or something?

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HilaryBriss · 24/01/2019 08:32

Why didn't you ask him if he would drive you home? I agree that he should have offered but I would still have asked.

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ShatnersWig · 24/01/2019 08:33

Unless he had had a lot to drink the night before and would have been over the limit, he should have offered of course.

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hammeringinmyhead · 24/01/2019 08:35

Ooh no. This is the kind of man who, if you stayed together, would decide you being ill while looking after a baby for example would be your problem to sort out.

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NameChangeNugget · 24/01/2019 08:35

Why didn’t you ask him? Hmm

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WizardOfToss · 24/01/2019 08:35

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TheDarkPassenger · 24/01/2019 08:35

Is he emetaphobic?

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GrandmaJane · 24/01/2019 08:35

He doesn’t care about you. Be sure any sex you have is because you want it, not just because he does.

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Villanellesproudmum · 24/01/2019 08:36

Wow, what a treat he is. Agree dump and run.

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swingofthings · 24/01/2019 08:37

Did he have to work though? If so, then it's understandable. If not and he just sat at home, why didn't you ask him if he could take you home? If he'd say no then because he though you were being dramatic, or because he had to go to the gym, that's another matter.

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Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 24/01/2019 08:41

Dump and run.
Even if he is emetaphobic Hmm
He could have called a cab (and paid for it as you were in no for state by the sound of it)

He could have done this as a caring act Even if he was goingto be a tight bastard ask for the money back later

Bluntly he doesn’t care about you or is too clueless to understand how to show consideration

Either way stop wasting your time
He is showing you who he is.

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Jcsp · 24/01/2019 08:41

The second part of the word ‘boyfriend’ is used loosely here!

Don’t think he’s a keeper.

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Munchkingoat · 24/01/2019 08:41

Absolutely definitely bin him. The right and kind thing to do would have been to take you home even if you'd only been seeing each other a week let alone 4 months.

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Ellisandra · 24/01/2019 08:42

Is there going to be a drip feed that explains why he couldn’t drive you home?
Or why you didn’t just stay at his until you could take the train?

If it was my boyfriend, he would absolutely have insisted he take me home (and he’d try to stay with me).

I would have stayed at his until I felt well enough to get the train - or accepted his offer if more ill than that.

After 4 months, this relationship is not right if he doesn’t offer, and if you can’t just say “could you drop me back?”

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