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AIBU?

To keep dd off school for the rest of the week?

13 replies

Islands81 · 24/01/2019 02:04

Dd’s Primary school has a LOT of kids off sick at the moment, to the point where they’ve had to bring environmental health in. There’s two bugs going around, one nasty cold/cough, and a sick bug.

Dd has been off school all this week with the cold/cough. It’s really nasty and she’s constantly streaming snot, has a bad chesty cough and is struggling to sleep at night. I had a sore throat yesterday and now today I’ve come down with it too.

I’m in two minds about sending her back to school tomorrow, it wouldn’t be very nice for her but with some calpol in the tank she’d probably cope. However, I’m terrified that the next thing will be she’ll get the puking bug too, and then muggins here will get it too.

I have ME and a terrible immune system, I seem to get things 10 times worse/longer than most people. We had the Aussie flu just after Christmas last year, I was in bed most days until April, and then had awful post viral fatigue until November. I’d literally have to have a sleep after just nipping to the post office. I really don’t want a repeat of that again, but at the same time I feel bad that dd is missing so much school.

She is obviously delighted to not be going to school. Aibu?

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A334 · 24/01/2019 02:10

I would keep her home. Even though it’s school, her health is important and you wouldn’t want her to be uncomfortable or in pain. Even with calpol, the virus would still be lingering in her system as calpol just suppresses symptoms, and catching germs while she’s not completely over her sickness will be really bad!

Keep her home until she is better, as it’s best for her and prevents the spread. These things happen, try not to feel guilty about her attendance.

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jessstan2 · 24/01/2019 02:22

Keep her at home for the rest of the week. She's not well enough to go back to school yet.

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Islands81 · 24/01/2019 02:28

Ok thanks. Decision made. I feel so rotten myself with the same thing, i wouldn’t want to be going to school.

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Mississippilessly · 24/01/2019 03:10

Def keep home

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ForeignnessAlert · 24/01/2019 05:26

Definitely keep her home. You can always get her to do some reading/maths/mini project if you feel guilty and she's well enough. If she's not 100% she'd be more likely to catch other bugs.

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BackBoiler · 24/01/2019 05:35

My daughter started with cold symptoms a week on Friday ago. I sent her to school where she picked up something else and ended up off school last Friday! If I had let her stay with Nannan on the Monday after the first weekend she probably wouldn't have sent the second weekend barely moving from the sofa! She is 5

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MrsMonkeyBear · 24/01/2019 05:36

I would keep her off too. We've had virus after virus come home from nursery in the last 3 months. Including RSV (like a cold but causes bronchiolitis in small children and eldest ended up on an inhaler,) chicken pox and scarlet fever. The last 3 weeks post Christmas hols have been the worst for illness.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 24/01/2019 05:58

I have ME too. It’s finally starting to be recognised by the mainstream as autoimmune, which is why you get everything do violently. Just FYI if you didn’t know. Vomiting bugs are the only things I’ve told dh he will have to not work if I get them. I live in fear and give anyone who’s had one a wide birth for at least a week after symptoms have subsided as some bugs can live for at least that time. You are deffo doing the right thing.

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Cherrysherbet · 24/01/2019 06:03

Keep her off op. She needs to be at home resting in the warm until she’s better, otherwise she will catch the bug too.

Hope she’s better soon.

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Groovee · 24/01/2019 06:08

If you feel she still needs carpool then she needs to be at home.

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BunsOfAnarchy · 24/01/2019 06:33

Yes keep her off.
Im sorry you have ME, i have a relative who has it and when shes well shes full of beans but the tiniest of colds leaves her bedbound for months. She cant take her head off the pillow for weeks. Not a lot of people know about or understand ME. Its awful. I hope you have enough help and support through it, especially the tough times xx

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Crunchymum · 24/01/2019 06:42

I'm immunosuppressed and an emetophobe. No fucking way would my kids be going in of environmental health were involved.

Although saying that we've been back 10 days (11 including today) and the 4yo has been off for 5 days and the 6yo for 3 days. They've had the bloody virus doing the rounds (temp, no appetite, cough, lethargy, general malaise). 4yo has has it for over 5 weeks now.... on and off.

What does environmental health involvement entail?????

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Islands81 · 24/01/2019 12:45

Thanks everyone. Kept her off and I’ve only just woken up, I feel dreadful. She’s still snotty as hell too.

I think when environmental health turned up they recommended to clean the entire school with hot water (no disinfectant, just hot water 🤔). There were bits of puke in the drains as kids had been vomming in the playground. A text was sent around saying that children were not allowed to bring hand sanitizers to school (I guess because of the alcohol content).